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About books I have authors that I have to have their next book like Caroline Fyffe, Cleo Coyle,Robyn Carr, Nora Roberts and of course Emily. I like cozy mysteries , and town series like Eternity Spring & Virgin River. Love Lola
I read A Discovery of Witches as I sat with my mom for her chemo, and truly lost myself in it. I've lost myself in it at least 6 times since then. You'll love it, Jina.
As to how I choose my next must -read, it's whatever hits me from my stack of about 75 TBRs...in print or digital. Sometimes it's an ARC I need to review. Sometimes it's a favorite book I read because it's comforting. And many times it's a new release by one of the authors I love. I'm reading one of those this weekend.
As for Fifty Shades, it's not abusive at all...all of the sex is consensual, albeit certainly an alternative lifestyle that's not for everyone. It was the first book of its kind that I read. It shocked me. But the hero is deeply, deeply broken and it's the story of his redemption. In the end it's a transformational love story. And, honestly, the books are not very well written. I hate to say that, but with respect to the author, it's the story itself... not the writing...that captured my heart and soul. It's a fantasy, a fairy tale. I can't explain why it resonated with women of all ages, but it's a phenomenon.
The movies follow the storyline but don't tell the whole story. Ray is as caught up in the movies as I am, but I end up having to fill in some of the background to give him context.
Give Heather a big hug from me and keep one for yourself.
xo
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As to how I choose my next must -read, it's whatever hits me from my stack of about 75 TBRs...in print or digital. Sometimes it's an ARC I need to review. Sometimes it's a favorite book I read because it's comforting. And many times it's a new release by one of the authors I love. I'm reading one of those this weekend.
As for Fifty Shades, it's not abusive at all...all of the sex is consensual, albeit certainly an alternative lifestyle that's not for everyone. It was the first book of its kind that I read. It shocked me. But the hero is deeply, deeply broken and it's the story of his redemption. In the end it's a transformational love story. And, honestly, the books are not very well written. I hate to say that, but with respect to the author, it's the story itself... not the writing...that captured my heart and soul. It's a fantasy, a fairy tale. I can't explain why it resonated with women of all ages, but it's a phenomenon.
The movies follow the storyline but don't tell the whole story. Ray is as caught up in the movies as I am, but I end up having to fill in some of the background to give him context.
Give Heather a big hug from me and keep one for yourself.
xo
P
Lola wrote: "About books I have authors that I have to have their next book like Caroline Fyffe, Cleo Coyle,Robyn Carr, Nora Roberts and of course Emily. I like cozy mysteries , and town series like Eternity Sp..."Dear Lola,
You are so good to me and the kids. Thank you all for your prayers and well wishes. Its good to be able to share the load of some of the heartache I have with a child who was perfectly fine before January 3, 2013 but now physically is like a toddler learning to do motor skills. I am amazed at her upbeat attitude. Her mind and intelligence is at a 20 year olds level so she is "trapped" in a body that doesnt do what she wants or needs to do. I get mad sometimes at all she's lost. But she has never been mad over her situation, just frustrated and sometimes confused at why she cant get her body to work like it did. Sharing with yall about my fears etc helps lighten the load a bit. Thank you.
I havent tried Cleo Coyle or Caroline Fyffe yet but the coffee house mysteries book is on my must read shelf. I agree with all your other choices too. I absolutely love Virgin River, and most anything by Nora Roberts. Emily March is a must preorder book as soon as its available and then its opened and read immediately. Have you read Janet Chapman's Highlander books or her Spellbound Falls books? OMGoodness its a must read too. Have a wonderful weekend!
Love you bunches,
Jina and our girls
Jina,I will add you and the girls to the prayer list. I pray for all of you but will be more specific. You must of known that I was wondering if Heather had the dental surgery or not.
Hi All,I just saw a neat gardening tip, yes I am like a "garden addict" cruising the garden sites, lol. Needing a spring fix.Anyway , if you have seen the seeds on tape you can buy ,nice idea but are expensive and you can't get the type of seeds you want. This way is so easy and cheap I can't believe I didn't think of it first. You roll out a long sheet of paper towels , spray (mist) it down really good with warm water, then space out your seeds according to the directions on the package. Fold 1/3 of the long side over the seeds ,then the other side, and pat it down, then roll it up loosely, take it outside and roll it out in your garden row , cover with the right amount of dirt. Great for carrots that I always plant too thick. Funny because this is how I have checked to see if seeds are still fertile for years. Love Lola
Dear Group,Heather was a trooper today. 4 impacted wisdom were cut out, one tooth that had no jaw bone around it was pulled and a baby tooth was pulled. She had no cavities but they gave her a good cleaning. We go back in a week to check on the stitches.
Thank you for the prayers and support!
Love you all going to go cuddle with our girl.
Jina wrote: "Dear Group,
Heather was a trooper today. 4 impacted wisdom were cut out, one tooth that had no jaw bone around it was pulled and a baby tooth was pulled. She had no cavities but they gave her a goo..."
Great news, Jina! Give her a feel-better-soon hug from me!
Heather was a trooper today. 4 impacted wisdom were cut out, one tooth that had no jaw bone around it was pulled and a baby tooth was pulled. She had no cavities but they gave her a goo..."
Great news, Jina! Give her a feel-better-soon hug from me!
Yeah !!!! Jina !!!! I am so glad to hear that! Love Lola
Jina,So glad to hear that Heather is doing well. Glad that the dental work went well. Tell Heather she did better than I did with cavities. Way to go, Heather! Keeping you all in my prayers that things continue to heal.
Lola wrote: "Jina wrote: "Lola wrote: "Thanks Paula, You have to imagine it is like having a 3 day weekend for 365 days lol. I would love to read part of your book!!! I promise to be truthful. Have any of yo..."
Dear Lola,
The girls got their gift Sunday afternoon. (UPS deleivers on Sundays now). Sarah has already tried a page and hopefully today Heather will be up to trying one too. She slept soundly last night. She would moan and yank her face away from the pillows if she turned her head, cheek to pillow, in the night. They prescribed antibiotics, pain medicine and a mouth rinse for her. Now we wait for healing to be complete. In about 6 months we can go back the they will tackle her jaw dislocation. To put a jaw back to where its supposed to be is a 3 hour surgery per jaw. But afterwards she will be able to start eatting, talking better and swallowing. If you want to see what its like for Heather, keep your mouth open but try to swallow. It is so hard. Anyhoo, love you bunches.
Talk to you soon.
Jina and the girls
Dear Jina,I hope the coloring book takes their minds off things for awhile. Love Lola
Lola wrote: "Dear Jina,I hope the coloring book takes their minds off things for awhile. Love Lola"
Dear Big Sis,
It definitely will tbring much joy and calm to the girls. It was a wonderful and very thoughtful gift. I myself amm having a hard time picking which page to color first. Oh the dilema and pressure of it all! (Fake swoon here) Lol. Thank you so much!
Love you,
Jina and the girls
lol I am having the same problem , I got myself the gardening chalk-board coloring book ,so many neat pictures.I thought the girls would like the animals . Love You all too, Lola
Lola wrote: "lol I am having the same problem , I got myself the gardening chalk-board coloring book ,so many neat pictures.I thought the girls would like the animals . Love You all too, Lola"
You all have given me a great idea. I am going to get out my coloring books and pray that I can clear my mind that way.
Thank you so much for the reminder.
Love you all.
Linda
Hi,everyone,Could you please ad my Aunt Ninette to your prayers as she has been rushed into surgery for a perforated bowel and other complications. She is the youngest of my Mom's siblings . My Uncle, her husbans , says they do not give her a good chance of making it but it is in God's Hands. Thanks
Keeping you all in my prayers
Melinda wrote: "Hi,everyone,Could you please ad my Aunt Ninette to your prayers as she has been rushed into surgery for a perforated bowel and other complications. She is the youngest of my Mom's siblings . My Un..."
Oh Melinda I am so sorry to hear this. I will certainly keep her in prayer and you as well.
God bless you and in His mercy hear our prayers.
Dear Melinda,I put your Aunt on our prayer list. I am so sorry your family is going thru this. Love Lola
Dear Melinda -- I'm so sorry to hear it, and will pray her her and the rest of your family. Please update us when you can, but know we will be thinking of all of you.
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I've been MIA a couple of days - with work and family stuff, primarily. But now I've caught something -- relatively minor but uncomfortable -- so I'm sleeping my way through the weekend. And tomorrow is a "writing day." I think I told you I'm taking a certification course in copy-editing. I thought I had a pretty good grasp of basic writing BEFORE I started the course, but I was sorely mistaken. The grammar review is blowing my mind, and the writing assignments are killers. It's a good exercise in humility and accepting critique. And there's a real risk I won't pass the test at the end, but I'll keep at it, because I think it will help me in the long run.
Take care & have a peaceful weekend if you can!
Take care & have a peaceful weekend if you can!
Update on Aunt Ninette,they have here in ICU/CCU room. They did not finish the surgery as they did not want her to die on the table. If she makes it thru to morning, they will see if they think she can handle them going back to finish. Uncle Tom , her husband , need sprays. I believe it is always hard to see a family member hooked up to tubes and drains. Thanks everyone.
Melinda wrote: "Update on Aunt Ninette,they have here in ICU/CCU room. They did not finish the surgery as they did not want her to die on the table. If she makes it thru to morning, they will see if they think s..."
Praying for all of you. Peace be with you Melinda
Update,Mom's sister, Ninette passed away around 7:15 am this morning. Please keep her husband tom, son Geoff and his family and her brothers and sisters in your prayers. Ninette was the youngest of the brothers and sisters.
Thank you for your prayer as she had a peaceful night. I am glad that it was peaceful and the chaplain was with with Uncle and cousin.
Melinda, I'm so very sorry. There are no words. Bless you and your family. You will continue in my prayers. x
Dear Melinda,No one can know the grief you and your Family are going thru. I too am sorry for your loss. Love Lola
Melinda wrote: "Update,Mom's sister, Ninette passed away around 7:15 am this morning. Please keep her husband tom, son Geoff and his family and her brothers and sisters in your prayers. Ninette was the youngest o..."
Melinda,
I am so sorry to hear your aunt passed away. I know it must be a very difficult time for your family and I will continue to pray for the comfort and peace of our Lord to be with them.
Lord, in your mercy hear our prayer.
Dear Melinda,I am so sorry to hear of your Aunts passing. We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
Hugs,
Jina and the girls
Melinda wrote: "Update,Mom's sister, Ninette passed away around 7:15 am this morning. Please keep her husband tom, son Geoff and his family and her brothers and sisters in your prayers. Ninette was the youngest o..."
Melinda, So sorry for your loss xx
Lesley wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Update,Mom's sister, Ninette passed away around 7:15 am this morning. Please keep her husband tom, son Geoff and his family and her brothers and sisters in your prayers. Ninette wa..."
Sorry for your loss Melinda ..... positive vibes and sprinkled with angel dust to help you and your loved ones get through this very heartbreaking emotional time. hugs, thinking of you , Dixie-Lee .
Hi everyone -- it's been a long time since I posted in here - but this is where I usually tell you when I'm going to be off the grid for a day or so. Here's a quick update:
Our son, Joel, and his wife, Rebecca, are joining us today and will be here until Saturday. We haven't seen them since early December. We will be wine tasting today and tomorrow, hitting a couple of restaurants and exchanging Christmas gifts - at last. I will be chasing myself around the block until they leave on Saturday, but I'll grab some photos and check in as soon as possible!
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Our son, Joel, and his wife, Rebecca, are joining us today and will be here until Saturday. We haven't seen them since early December. We will be wine tasting today and tomorrow, hitting a couple of restaurants and exchanging Christmas gifts - at last. I will be chasing myself around the block until they leave on Saturday, but I'll grab some photos and check in as soon as possible!
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Hi all,Been so long since anyone posted. I have been going through a rough patch lately. My marriage of almost 17 years is over. He wants a divorce and already has a new interest. We have decided to split custody of our three year old. This has been kind of hard but i am seeing a light at the end. The soonest the divorce would be final is nov 8th. Ugh!
Brandi
Dear Brandi,I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Know we are here if you need a shoulder or an ear . This group has had a hard year, so we need to lift each other up ! Hugs Lola
Brandi wrote: "Hi all,
Been so long since anyone posted. I have been going through a rough patch lately. My marriage of almost 17 years is over. He wants a divorce and already has a new interest. We have decided..."
Brandi, I'm so sorry you're having to go through that. My daughter was 4 when it happened to me, and today I learned that my daughter and her 4-year old had to move out of their home last night because her partner & baby daddy doesn't get enough "me time" for himself. He wants to live alone. It broke her heart and it's broken mine. I'm going out there on Sunday to help her get settled somewhere and connected with a family law attorney.
We've been posting a lot under "Random Thoughts and Ideas" and are just getting ready to read "A Stardance Summer" later in June. We miss you and think of you and will be here for you whenever you need us. xo
PAULA
Been so long since anyone posted. I have been going through a rough patch lately. My marriage of almost 17 years is over. He wants a divorce and already has a new interest. We have decided..."
Brandi, I'm so sorry you're having to go through that. My daughter was 4 when it happened to me, and today I learned that my daughter and her 4-year old had to move out of their home last night because her partner & baby daddy doesn't get enough "me time" for himself. He wants to live alone. It broke her heart and it's broken mine. I'm going out there on Sunday to help her get settled somewhere and connected with a family law attorney.
We've been posting a lot under "Random Thoughts and Ideas" and are just getting ready to read "A Stardance Summer" later in June. We miss you and think of you and will be here for you whenever you need us. xo
PAULA
Hi Ladies, By looking at Brandi & Paula's comments it would appear that 2017 hasn't finished throwing it's worst at members of this group. As Loa said the members of this group, although we may not know easch other personally and only as group members, are here to listen/talk/support each other at any time; everyone has been for me over the last year. Be as strong as you can & you will get through it eventually. Love & hugs to everyone xx
I haven't been on here in quite some time...sorry for that. I've been having some ongoing health issues. I just wanted to check in to see how everyone is doing, but it sounds like a lot of us in the group are having a rough 2017. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. ((hugs))
Hi, ladies -
It's been days since I checked in, and the time is flying by in Virginia as I wind down here and get ready to return to California this coming Friday. To be honest, my head is scrambled. My emotions are raw one minute and numb the next. This is so much more stressful than I expected. Add to that the "weird" experience I had at the writing conference, and I swear I'm not sure who I am or what I want anymore. I know these things pass, but right now I'm not sure where the path comes out on the other side of this maze.
I am still very much looking forward to A Stardance Summer, as a trip to Eternity Springs is just what the doctor ordered.
We took Layla on her first trip to the beach yesterday, and she had the time of her little life. Took to the ocean like the proverbial fish to water. It was wonderful to see it all through her eyes. That's a great memory that will stay with me for a long time.
Hope everyone else is holding up - I'll check in again ASAP.
Jimnlori - I hope your health is improving. It was wonderful to see your comments! You too, Jessica. Stay tuned for book discussions to resume with Emily's new release in a couple of weeks!
Paula
It's been days since I checked in, and the time is flying by in Virginia as I wind down here and get ready to return to California this coming Friday. To be honest, my head is scrambled. My emotions are raw one minute and numb the next. This is so much more stressful than I expected. Add to that the "weird" experience I had at the writing conference, and I swear I'm not sure who I am or what I want anymore. I know these things pass, but right now I'm not sure where the path comes out on the other side of this maze.
I am still very much looking forward to A Stardance Summer, as a trip to Eternity Springs is just what the doctor ordered.
We took Layla on her first trip to the beach yesterday, and she had the time of her little life. Took to the ocean like the proverbial fish to water. It was wonderful to see it all through her eyes. That's a great memory that will stay with me for a long time.
Hope everyone else is holding up - I'll check in again ASAP.
Jimnlori - I hope your health is improving. It was wonderful to see your comments! You too, Jessica. Stay tuned for book discussions to resume with Emily's new release in a couple of weeks!
Paula
Jimnlori ,I am sorry to hear you have been ill. We all have been going thru a lot like you wrote, I am ready for a little peace! I hope you are well!
Paula ,
What happened at the conference ? Glad to hear you are having fun times with Layla. I got a notice that A Stardance Summer is going to be released on Audible at the same time as the print ,so I ordered that too. We have been having some super storms up here , tornadoes in Wyoming. We had some really bad wind last night, it took 2 panels out of my greenhouse roof and split a big branch in the apple tree ,Wolf had to saw it off and it was loaded with little apples. The weather is supposed to move out tonight, I hope they are right because we have a trip with Jen & Bill planned for tomorrow, we are going to the Ross Creek Cedars &Kootenai falls, two of my favorite places here. This will be the earliest I will have gotten up since Wolf retired lol. Love Lola
Hi, Lola - I'd love to take that trip to Kootenai Falls with you! It sounds glorious. The ocean is usually my go-to place for inner peace, and hopefully, before I leave I'll take an opportunity to take advantage of it. In the meantime, I hope your weather is just perfect and you have a wonderful time.
The conference was educational, but also somewhat demoralizing. I went into the retreat bright-eyed and bushy-tailed but left disheartened and completely confused. Despite some truly wonderful feedback from my primary editor, I can't help but wonder if it's worth the emotional toll to swim against the tide.
The indie author world can be a quagmire. It can be competitive and cutthroat. Unless you're at the top of the heap, trying to find a "community" - as I'd hoped to do - is much more difficult than I imagined. I got some very useful feedback -- and some that I'd just as soon forget. The learning sessions were fantastic, but I'm not sure I'd go to another workshop anytime soon.
The fact is, I'm not writing a light-hearted, trope-driven romance. A couple of people told me my story (even though they haven't read it) is "too emotional" to sell, and sounds "more like women's fiction than contemporary romance" -- as if that's a bad thing. One told me my current cover "looks paranormal" and readers would "feel cheated" if I don't change it. I truly appreciate constructive criticism, but this was disdain. And it hurt.
With all the chaos in our family life, I need to simply take a step back and hit the reset button. Writing a debut novel is a daunting process. It's often lonely. It's hard to trust feedback from others who might view you as a competitor.
I may pull back for a while, stop blogging, delete my GRs & FB author pages, put my website on hiatus, and take a life-affirming break from social media -- while I finish my manuscript. If and when I go forward with publication, it will likely be under a pen name, with new social media accounts, a new book title, a new synopsis, and a new cover. In other words, a complete do-over. Keep the story but package it differently. Fly under the radar until I'm ready to start fresh. I told my other editor today and canceled my deadline so she can move other authors up on her calendar.
Thanks for caring. It means a great deal to me.
Paula
The conference was educational, but also somewhat demoralizing. I went into the retreat bright-eyed and bushy-tailed but left disheartened and completely confused. Despite some truly wonderful feedback from my primary editor, I can't help but wonder if it's worth the emotional toll to swim against the tide.
The indie author world can be a quagmire. It can be competitive and cutthroat. Unless you're at the top of the heap, trying to find a "community" - as I'd hoped to do - is much more difficult than I imagined. I got some very useful feedback -- and some that I'd just as soon forget. The learning sessions were fantastic, but I'm not sure I'd go to another workshop anytime soon.
The fact is, I'm not writing a light-hearted, trope-driven romance. A couple of people told me my story (even though they haven't read it) is "too emotional" to sell, and sounds "more like women's fiction than contemporary romance" -- as if that's a bad thing. One told me my current cover "looks paranormal" and readers would "feel cheated" if I don't change it. I truly appreciate constructive criticism, but this was disdain. And it hurt.
With all the chaos in our family life, I need to simply take a step back and hit the reset button. Writing a debut novel is a daunting process. It's often lonely. It's hard to trust feedback from others who might view you as a competitor.
I may pull back for a while, stop blogging, delete my GRs & FB author pages, put my website on hiatus, and take a life-affirming break from social media -- while I finish my manuscript. If and when I go forward with publication, it will likely be under a pen name, with new social media accounts, a new book title, a new synopsis, and a new cover. In other words, a complete do-over. Keep the story but package it differently. Fly under the radar until I'm ready to start fresh. I told my other editor today and canceled my deadline so she can move other authors up on her calendar.
Thanks for caring. It means a great deal to me.
Paula
Paula, So sorry you are having a rough time all round. You must do what is best for you but we would sure miss you in this group. Take care & enjoy time with your family if you can before you have to return home. Hugs xxx
Lesley & Friends...
I wouldn't leave the group for anything. It's other things I need to set aside but never the community we have here. Rest assured we will stay together as long as we have the desire to read together and share the ups and downs of life.
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I wouldn't leave the group for anything. It's other things I need to set aside but never the community we have here. Rest assured we will stay together as long as we have the desire to read together and share the ups and downs of life.
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Jimnlori,Keeping you in my prayers.
Paula,
Things change as well as priorities. Glad you are staying with the group.
I understand about the writing. I have the research done for the church I went to in Maryland but life keeps happening . I need a couple of weeks to write the history. I thought I would be able to do it this summer but Mom's brother is staying with us and Mom is having health issues so I have moved the time around to start again after her brother leaves at the end of July and college classes start if I get enough students in my class for it to take.
Paula,I would say just wrote your story and if it sells good but get it done when you are relaxed and things have calmed a little.
Well we have our court date for the divorce. It is set for Nov 20th. We also got the paper work back from the judge concerning our custody of our three year old. They agreed to our terms and only changed the holidays, as we didn't specify any holidays but memorial, labor, christmas eve, christmas day, new years eve, and new years day. So they put into place an alternating schedule.I am hoping that we are able to settle our finances quickly so that we can get things moving on getting him out of the house and getting me the ability to refinance.
Hope all are doing better. My anxiety is going up and down. my sister and I are going to tim and faith tonight!
Brandi,Hope you and your sister have fun tonight. Keeping you in my prayers.
Good Evening Girls,Brandi, I am keeping you in my prayers , that everything is happening to guide you to a better place. I am sorry you are having to go thru this, may it make you stronger.
Paula,
We wouldn't let you leave!!!! I am sad that the other writers were so mean! I have never thought about writing a book , it would scare the bejesus outta me . The Falls were spectacular the river was running really fast from all the rain and snow run-off , it was so noisy you had to shout to be heard. I posted a photo of Wolf, Jen and I at the falls. Love Lola
Paula wrote: "Hi, Lola - I'd love to take that trip to Kootenai Falls with you! It sounds glorious. The ocean is usually my go-to place for inner peace, and hopefully, before I leave I'll take an opportunity to ..."Paula wrote: "Hi, ladies -
It's been days since I checked in, and the time is flying by in Virginia as I wind down here and get ready to return to California this coming Friday. To be honest, my head is scrambl..."
Dear Paula,
I am so glad you were able to help your daughter and granddaughter. When I went through my divorce it was the fourth time I had left him but the three times before that final time, I was threatened by his family and manipulated and scared into going back with him. (His Dad owned a repair shop that worked on my Dad's farm equipment. My Dad being a farmer couldnt pay until after the harvests were done so his Dad told me if I didnt take Don back they were going to put a lein on Dads equipment so he wouldnt be able to use his combine etc until the bill was paid. I'm a Daddys girl and that like other threats made me go back.) My parents didnt get involved with helping me partly because they believe "you make your bed, you lay in it" and partly because they didnt know how bad it was. I was too ashamed and scared to admit to them that I was getting hit, choked etc. I was brainwashed into thinkiing that if I had only not overcooked supper, had gotten all the vaccuuming done etc he wouldn't have been "forced to punish " me. The final time he abused me I truly think my recently deceased grandma or my guardian angel intervened to save my unborn child. I was 7months pregnant with Sarah. I had found out that day that the baby I was carrying was another girl. Don was so unhappy at not getting a son. (In his words I wasn't woman enough to give him a boy) He tried to make me lose the baby by throwing a glass pitcher at my stomach. I picked up the cordless phone to call 911 and he grabbed the phone out of my hand and hit me across the cheek with it. By the grace of God it had pushed redial. It dialed my parents number. The phone was laying on the floor while he was yelling and dragging me around by my hair. All the while my Dad is listening. Dad hangs up and calls the police. About 10 minutes from the time of being hit by the phone there was a knock at the door. I open it and its my Dad with 2 cop cars with their lights on behind him. I break down in tears from shame. The police and my parents escorted me to the hospital to get checked out and put on medication to stop premature labor. I never went back to the house I had lived in with Don. The girls and I stayed at my parents house until after Sarah Faith was born. I had a court order that he was to stay away from the kids and I until after Sarah was born. She was born 2 months later under protection and anonymous delivery at the hospital. Without Mom and Dads help and support I may not be alive today. Thank you for helping your daughter and grand daughter. Your daughters relationship couldve ended a lot worse and I am so thankful she has you.
As far as what happened at the author retreat. I have read part of your manuscript and I was blown away!!! I couldnt put it down and wish I could read how it ends. Having to wait to find out is torturous. I am going to be writing a review for your page but I am behind in my posts, emails and writing since Heather is not doing well. Her defibrillator has shocked her 3 to 5 times in the last week and a half. Her balance is way off and shes in pain. The last episode was last night around 8. She got shocked which precipitated a seizure and it took about 10 minutes for her to be responsive, follow commands and get color back in her face. So Sam and I stayed up all night to watch her sleep. Even Little Bit did not sleep and paced by Heather or laid by Heather but didnt sleep until about 5 this morning. Little Bit is napping beside Heather now. I will catch up with posts and emails as soon as I can. Your book is awesome and will be a hit! Its an emotional book but you nailed the feelings and atmosphere and to some it may help them deal with the real life similar situations that happen. I am extremely proud of you and honored to read yoir writing and be your friend. Keep your chin up and be true to your craft. Write your book, not what others think your writing should be.
Love you oodles,
Jina and the girls
Brandi wrote: "Well we have our court date for the divorce. It is set for Nov 20th. We also got the paper work back from the judge concerning our custody of our three year old. They agreed to our terms and only c..."Dear Brandi,
I am so sorry about your divorce. Nobody gets married thinking it will end that way. Its definitely a big transition. After my divorce the hardest thing to get accustomed to was that all decisions, all responsibility was placed on me instead of a "we". I second guessed myself a lot. Overcompensated some, worried a lot about things like am I doing the right thing for the girls, which bill to pay first etc.
One thing that helped me most was a codependency group counseling. I learned so much and got such great advice. I learned I dont always have to say "yes", that its ok to say "no I cant help you." That it doesnt make me a bad person to not lend money to friends, always babysit other peoples kids etc when you know you'll never get paid back or that you know your friend will have their kids play at your house 24/7 while they do whatever and never watch your kids so you can go to the store or whatever without dragging the kids along. The other thing I learned was to reward myself once or twice a month. The reward could be as small as going out for pizza instead of cooking at home or saving a few dollars every week so you can buy the shoes you've been wanting (or needing). Lean on friends and family a little, ask for help or advice if you get stuck. My divorce was the first divorce on both sides of my family EVER. I had to forgive myself for that. I felt guilty for a long time about my marriage failing. My family is very much against divorce so I was afraid of my parents and family being embarrassed about me. I learned that it was ok to have to come to an end, that God wouldnt want His children in an abusive or unhappy relationship. That it was best for the kids not to grow up with the fighting and tension. I am here if you need to talk. I'll never judge you and will always try to make you smile.
Hugs to you,
Jina
Jina wrote: "Paula wrote: "Hi, Lola - I'd love to take that trip to Kootenai Falls with you! It sounds glorious. The ocean is usually my go-to place for inner peace, and hopefully, before I leave I'll take an o..."Jina, I'm so sorry to hear that Heather is suffering so much at the moment which means that you & the rest of your family are suffering too
Lola and Lesley... how are your family members doing lately? I hope your sister and Judy and Mark are doing well. I am keeping you in my prayers.
Paula and Linda... I hope ..."
Dear Paula,
I checked out your pinterest boards. I also saved a gazillion of your pins. The eye candy is FABULOUS! I love Lucifer and a few others!
Signed,
Your follower with the vapors swooning Lol