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Praying for you and your family Lola!Hugs,
Jina
Melinda wrote: "I am still playing catch up but am only one book behind. Spring break was not a vacation but I caught up on paperwork and some cleaning out of files. thinking about all of you."
We're thinking of you too, Melinda. I have SO much organizing and cleaning to do, but there are just not enough hours in the day! Yes, I realize I have the same 24 hours as everyone else, but apparently I lack time management skills. Or got an extra dose of procrastination in the gene pool.
We're thinking of you too, Melinda. I have SO much organizing and cleaning to do, but there are just not enough hours in the day! Yes, I realize I have the same 24 hours as everyone else, but apparently I lack time management skills. Or got an extra dose of procrastination in the gene pool.
Lola wrote: "Hi All,
Well Wolf and Jen just left for Az. We got a call yesterday from his Mom's neighbor that his Mom had a heart attack. He talked to his Mom last night and it does not look good . So Jen cal..."
Oh, Lola, I'm so sorry to hear that. Believe me, I know what a hard time this is. I have never had to clean up chicken s**t, nor have I ever felt my way under a nesting chicken...but just thinking of me trying to do that completely cracks me up. My daughter got all the farming instincts in the family. She is a pioneer woman if ever there was one.
Please keep us posted and take care. Wear gloves, eye protection, a mask, a biohazard suit....whatever it takes.
P.
Well Wolf and Jen just left for Az. We got a call yesterday from his Mom's neighbor that his Mom had a heart attack. He talked to his Mom last night and it does not look good . So Jen cal..."
Oh, Lola, I'm so sorry to hear that. Believe me, I know what a hard time this is. I have never had to clean up chicken s**t, nor have I ever felt my way under a nesting chicken...but just thinking of me trying to do that completely cracks me up. My daughter got all the farming instincts in the family. She is a pioneer woman if ever there was one.
Please keep us posted and take care. Wear gloves, eye protection, a mask, a biohazard suit....whatever it takes.
P.
Lola wrote: "Hi All,Well Wolf and Jen just left for Az. We got a call yesterday from his Mom's neighbor that his Mom had a heart attack. He talked to his Mom last night and it does not look good . So Jen cal..."
Linda,
Praying for all of you. Hopefully the chickens will be good for you. Wolf and Jen will have safe travel.
Melinda
Linda wrote: "Lola wrote: "Hi All,Well Wolf and Jen just left for Az. We got a call yesterday from his Mom's neighbor that his Mom had a heart attack. He talked to his Mom last night and it does not look good..."
Linda,
It may be Dave's project but if it is like here sooner or later everyone ends up involved whether they want to nor not. But it is important to have projects.
Dear group,Hi all. Paula, you crack me up, I have a "x-files" type picture of you in my mind collecting eggs with your hazmat suit on saying over the microphone "Houston we have a problem, this crap is like wall paper paste and wont come off. I think back up and a containment field is necessary around the perimeter at 45, 60, and 90 degree intervals. Plus febreeze springtime scent would be appreciated... over" We are getting the car packed and ready for tomorrow's trip to Duke for our results and treatment information for the girls. The last two days I have been chanting to myself over and over, "I dont have it. I dont have the disease. I am fine" Hopefully the power of positive thinking and praying for hours everyday will make the results come back in the best way possible. This waiting has really taken its toll on me. I will be so relieved when tomorrow is over. Then the treatments can begin for Heather and Sarah at least and at the worst case scenario the disease wont progress and best case scenario is a few months from now the girls will feel much better. Then MAYBE we can relax and sleep better and the girls will have less pain and less trips to the hospital.
Lola, I hope Wolf and your family are doing ok and I am praying for all of you. Keep us informed my very dear friend.
Linda, Melinda, Lesley, Paula thank you for your kind messages. This whole group is such a wonderful group of friends I am so blessed to be a part of it and thankful for all of you.
I have a question for everyone though... Heathers teacher gave Heather an assignment to work on over spring break and I need your input if you dont mind, on a couple assignments. Her first assignment is for language arts, she has to read a book either by audio book or being read to (due to her vision problems) then watch the movie. Then tell how the two differ if they do and make a story board, or collage or her own movie poster casting characters to play the parts and setting etc... Some of her book choices are Hunger Games, Game of Thrones, Perks of being a Wallflower, The Book Thief, Hobbit, Lord of the Rings, and a few other titles. She does have the option of picking a different title that wasnt on list as long as it also has a movie out. It sounds like it would be a fun assignment. But I have to remember that this assignment is for Heather and even though she is extremely intelligent, I dont want her overwhelmed so I need to somehow make an outline of steps for her to follow so she stays on task and doesnt get frustrated or overwhelmed. Any advice or suggestions is greatly appreciated.
The second assignment is for her to look into various types of jobs she would like to do in her future. I know that somewhere there is a question and answer test which shows you what areas you have the strongest interest and aptitude for. But I cant remember the name of the site or the test that matches people with careers and fields of study. Does anyone of you know what I am talking about is called and where I can find it??
Thanks. Love you guys!!!!!!
Hugs to all,
Jina
Dear Jina,I haven't heard anything about my Mother-in-law, Jen called earlier ,they were still on the road .They should be there anytime now.
About Heather's home work , what age range of movies does she like? I will think on it.
Hugs Lola
Thanks again for all the good wishes and prayers ! Paula I made it through cleaning out the coop and I am still alive or at least I think I am lol.Hugs Lola
Jina wrote: "Dear group,Hi all. Paula, you crack me up, I have a "x-files" type picture of you in my mind collecting eggs with your hazmat suit on saying over the microphone "Houston we have a problem, this cr..."
Jina,
There are several sites for a career match test.
http://www.yourfreecareertest.com
http://www.educationplanner.org/stude...
I also sent another site by message in here.
What types of books /movies does Heather like?
Hope this helps.
Melinda
Lola wrote: "Thanks again for all the good wishes and prayers ! Paula I made it through cleaning out the coop and I am still alive or at least I think I am lol.Hugs Lola"
Lola,
How often do you have to do the chickens? I know you have to check for eggs everyday but the rest?
Glad you lived thru it.
Hi Melinda,I have gotten use to sleeping in since Wolf retired but with the chickens and puppy I have to be up by 7. I have to fill the chickens water thing first thing, then give them some scratch ,a mixture of corn and grains. Wolf made a auto -feeder so I don't have to worry about that. I have to go out in the afternoon and get the eggs. Wolf cleans their coop everyday but I am only doing it every other day. Then about 8 PM I have to go close up the coop after they have put themselves to bed. And you would know we have had winter come back the day he left.lol
Hugs Lola
Just want to wish everyone a Happy Easter, enjoy whatever you have planned. Love to all Lesley
Happy Easter! With everything going on I forgot! lol I get to go on an egg hunt everyday till Wolf gets home. Fun that all the egg we get are a shade of blue. Love You All,
Lola
I just had to tell you Melinda, I just made the chickens a bowl of popcorn lol. Spoilt chickens just like my other kids lol ! Hugs Lola
Lola wrote: "I just had to tell you Melinda, I just made the chickens a bowl of popcorn lol. Spoilt chickens just like my other kids lol ! Hugs Lola"Lola, you are a hoot. Our baby chicks are growing so fast. They are still in the garage under a heat lamp. Dave has it on a rope and he raises it every so often to get them used to cooler temperatures. They are so cute. I hope I still like them when they are grown. lol You enjoy your Easter egg hunts. lol I do hope all is well with Wolfs momma. Let him know they are in my prayers. and you to ofcourse.
Hugs and blessings Linda Manthey
hope everyone in doing well. I have been working all week. I have the next three days off. I am so tired I am not sure which way is up. lol I came straight home and put on my PJ's and I am sitting in my favorite chair with my laptop. I don't think I am going to be moving very soon. The guys can fend for themself I am too tired to eat and they are big enough to make their own food. Oh I sound cranky don't I? Better get my attitude ajusted. It's nap time now. lol Hope you all have a very Happy Easter.
Peace and blessing to you.
Linda Manthey
Hi Linda,Glad I could give you a grin ! Sounds like you got your days off just in time. I hope you have a nice long peaceful sleep!
My Daughter called all in tears a little over an hour ago , my M-I-L came home from the hospital .Her Dr. wanted her to stay another night but she refused. She ask Jen to help her take a shower and she had another heart attack in there. Jen and Wolf got her out and the Paramedics came and took her back to the Hospital. It doesn't look good. I haven't heard anything since then . I will let you know what happens tomorrow.
Hugs Lola
Hi All,Wolf's Mom Passed away tonight. They will be making the arrangements tomorrow. Hugs Lola
Lola wrote: "Hi All,Wolf's Mom Passed away tonight. They will be making the arrangements tomorrow. Hugs Lola"
Oh Lola, I am so sorry. Please let the family know they are in my prayers. I'm sure that was a terrible experience for them. I pray the peace of the Lord will sustain and comfort them.
Peace be with you as well my friend.
Love and hugs,
Linda Manthey
Lola wrote: "Hi All,Wolf's Mom Passed away tonight. They will be making the arrangements tomorrow. Hugs Lola"
Thinking of you all at this sad time.
Mod
Thank You All! I am so Blessed to have such great Friends ,who I am feeling are more like Family !It really hit Jen hard ,now all her grand parents are gone and it is the first time she has been with someone who died.
I will let you all know more when I hear something.
Off to clean the chicken coop oh what fun, but fitting it is a shi--y day! Hugs Lola
Lola wrote: "Thank You All! I am so Blessed to have such great Friends ,who I am feeling are more like Family !It really hit Jen hard ,now all her grand parents are gone and it is the first time she has been w..."
God Bless you Lola
Lola wrote: "Hi Linda,Glad I could give you a grin ! Sounds like you got your days off just in time. I hope you have a nice long peaceful sleep!
My Daughter called all in tears a little over an hour ago , m..."
Lola,
You and your family are in my prayers. Hope the chickensare being good.
Melinda
Dear Lola,I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I cant imagine the pain Wolf and Jen are feeling. I know it's got to be hard on Jen especially for witnessing the heart attack. She may suffer from PTSD or situational depression due to the experience. I know. Sam, Sarah and I are still recovering ourselves from Heathers ordeal. If Jen or Wolf need to talk I am here whenever they need me. I will continue to pray for them. Again I am so very sorry for your loss.
Yesterday at Duke, we got a lot of information. Samantha tested positive for the Fabrys gene but I tested negative which means it had to come from their biological fathers side of the family. Some of the girls other results were "off" and considered "anomalies" or "unusual variants". A couple points in the genetic testing contridicted the first genetic tests so they took more blood from the four of us to send to the top genetic testing lab in the United States for a full genetic panel on all chromosomes of DNA. It will take 4 months to get the results back. In the meantime, they are going to set the girls up for eye exams to look for the "starburst" or eye whorl which is a genetic marker for Fabrys. Then they are going to see the audiologist to check their ears, for their horrible tinnitus, ringing in the ears, and both girls are complaining of not being able to hear out of their left ear. Hearing loss is also a sign of Fabrys. We are working on getting Heather referred to a oral surgeon for her wisdom teeth problem, and Sam will be getting insurance soon by the foundation that is sponsoring the girls. Then she will get a full physical, an echocardiogram on her heart and an Electroencephalagram or EEG to check for any signs of seizure or trouble like the younger girls. Unfortunately while we were talking with the Dr. ,Heather had a bad seizure and her ICD defibrillator shocked her. On the one hand it was good for the new specialist to see first hand how quickly Heather can be fine one minute and in a life and death crisis the next for no apparent reason. I was recently told that Heather could live a long life and everyone is going to do their absolute best to make sure she has the best chance possible, BUT they want me to be prepared.. in case one of these times the defibrillator/pacemaker might not be enough and we might lose her. I REALLY did NOT want to hear that, and was not prepared to hear that since I have been thinking "Heather has pacemaker/defibrillator so she may get shocked but she's going to live. So... I am trying to deal and absorb that and file that away in my brain somehow. So as of yesterday, the defibrillator has saved her life from dying of cardiac arrest 68 times in the last 3 years two months and 22 days. I thank God for letting me keep her for however long He allows it. And pray I have my girls a cery long time to come.
So tonight the girls are having a slumber party to begin spring break. We ordered Chinese foid, rented movies, played the Wii and ate junk food. Tomorrow if all is ok in the morning I might take the girls and their friend Chy and Kelly to the beach to pick up seashells and hang out.
Love you all,
Jina
Dear Jina,Thank you so much for your kindness, I know you are going through a mighty hard time yourself! AHA what our hearts put us through literally and physically ! I talked to Wolf they are leaving for Home tomorrow, she did not want a funeral . And they are both ready to get out of there, they are going to stop at this Ancient Hopi Village that is on the way home . Wolf and I stopped there on our last trip to AZ. It is fascinating , you can go into the homes they carved out of the huge Boulders ,outside it was HOT but inside it was cool. I will have to look it up I know they have a web site. It's really some thing to see.
You and the girls are in my prayers ! Have a Happy Easter ! Love, Lola
Jina wrote: "Dear Lola,I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I cant imagine the pain Wolf and Jen are feeling. I know it's got to be hard on Jen especially for witnessing the heart attack. She may suffer from PT..."
Hi Jina, You must be on 'overload' with all that you are having to cope with. So pleased that you do not appear to have the same illness as the girls & I hope that it gives you strength of mind. Try and enjoy & make as many happy memories that you can with your wonderful girls. Remember we are here if you want 'to rant'. Regards Lesley.
Wow, ladies, I've missed so my an I'm sorry. This was a really challenging week, at work and at home. I've been so exhausted I've barely checked my email.
Lola, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please give Wolf a big hug for me. It's so very hard to lose a parent. You will all be in my prayers.
Jina, I can feel your stress and when I have a moment I will catch up with all of the messages I've missed.
Have a blessed Easter and I will get us set up for the last Callahan book on Monday!
Lola, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please give Wolf a big hug for me. It's so very hard to lose a parent. You will all be in my prayers.
Jina, I can feel your stress and when I have a moment I will catch up with all of the messages I've missed.
Have a blessed Easter and I will get us set up for the last Callahan book on Monday!
"Hoppy "Easter,Jen and Wolf got home safe and almost sound, tired and sad.
Hope everyone had a nice day! More tomorrow.
Hugs Lola
Hope this week is calmer for everyone. Hope you had a nice Easter.
Lola, so sorry about your Mother in law.
Thank You Brandi . As I told my Sister ,My Mother -in-law was the stereotypical M-I-L ,she never like me because I took her only child . I am sorry to say I will not miss her. I guess I have to thank her some what, because of the way she treated me, I tell my Son-in-law how much I love him all the time. Hugs Lola
Hello, everyone --- this week has turned into a series of wild and exhausting twists at home and at work in the clinic. Ray and I have had to take some unanticipated time away -- yesterday, today and tomorrow -- to deal with urgent family business, after a weekend that went by 'way too fast.
We will be on the road today, tomorrow and Friday, and I'm so sorry, but it can't be helped. Things should settle in place this weekend, or at least we're praying that they do.
I truly appreciate your patience. And if anyone feels a calling to help moderate the group, simply to help me through times like this, please message me. I feel so guilty when I have to take time away from us, or when a day goes by that I don't even get to my laptop --- I love our group and the bonds we share, and I don't want anyone to think for a minute that I've dropped the ball.
I just have too many balls in the air for the moment...and I'm not a very good juggler, it would seem!
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I've bought my copy of A Callahan Carol and started a folder for comments as we dive in!
((Hugs))
Paula
We will be on the road today, tomorrow and Friday, and I'm so sorry, but it can't be helped. Things should settle in place this weekend, or at least we're praying that they do.
I truly appreciate your patience. And if anyone feels a calling to help moderate the group, simply to help me through times like this, please message me. I feel so guilty when I have to take time away from us, or when a day goes by that I don't even get to my laptop --- I love our group and the bonds we share, and I don't want anyone to think for a minute that I've dropped the ball.
I just have too many balls in the air for the moment...and I'm not a very good juggler, it would seem!
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I've bought my copy of A Callahan Carol and started a folder for comments as we dive in!
((Hugs))
Paula
Paula wrote: "Hello, everyone --- this week has turned into a series of wild and exhausting twists at home and at work in the clinic. Ray and I have had to take some unanticipated time away -- yesterday, today a..."Take care & deal with whatever you need to deal with, we will be here when you get back.
Hi Paula,I definitely understand! I am just getting back to "Just Breathing not Panting!" Take your time and Like Lesley said we will be here.
Hugs Lola
Paula wrote: "Hello, everyone --- this week has turned into a series of wild and exhausting twists at home and at work in the clinic. Ray and I have had to take some unanticipated time away -- yesterday, today a..."Paula,
I think if we took a pole we would all agree that family comes first and you need to do what is in the best interest of your family. As it has already been stated, we will be here when things settle down. If you need to just talk or let off steam, pop in and we will listen and help if we can.
Take care my friend and you will be in my prayers.
Peace be with you,
Linda Manthey
HI! ok i have been super distracted. I have been crazy trying to keep up with review. But I have been keeping track with the group with my daily email summaries. Lola, I deepest condolences. I am very close to my MIL and can't even imagine the pain I would go through if i lost her. Jina you and yours are in my thoughts. Paula you too. *hugs* to you all.
Reunion Pass...
OMG! I was able to get an ARC through one of the blogs I review for. I loved it. My review will be up the week after next I'll be sure to post the link here.
Dear Group,Hello. I hope everyone is spectacular and feeling fantastic. For some of us the beginning of 2016 was kinda crappy but I am crossing my fingers in the hope that all the bad and sad is behind us and with the coming of Spring and warmer weather. We all will bloom and grow and be fresh as daisies from here on out.
I am starting to make headway on things I was behind on. So, the girls have been making their project for the group and its got only one more step. For that I need to know what Word program y'all use so that when you open the documents saved, and pictures you can view them. We have Adobe, Word perfect, Microsoft office, and a few other programs. If you tell me which you use I will make sure that the things the girls save to the flashdrive are compatible. We wanted y'all to have this before Valentine's this year but with the trips to Duke and a couple other hiccups and bumps in the road it went on the back burner until this last week. Please never think that we have forgotten you. It's just sometimes the girls fatigue and testing and health doesnt allow them the time or energy sometimes to do what they want and its all they can do just to make it through the day with just the daily care and maintenance. We love y'all and the girls are feeling a little better right now. :)
Hugs,
Jina
Jina wrote: "Dear Group,Hello. I hope everyone is spectacular and feeling fantastic. For some of us the beginning of 2016 was kinda crappy but I am crossing my fingers in the hope that all the bad and sad is b..."
Jina, You have so much to deal with in your family life so we would never think that you had forgotten about us. The girls are the most important people for you to think about. We are always here to hear about the good days/times but more importantly we are here to support you however we can when times are difficult. I'm sure we will be delighted with whatever project the girls are working on whenever it is completed. As per your request, I personally use Microsoft Office - Word. Love to you all - Lesley x
Oh another idea for the group to ponder... Poor Emily cant write fast enough to keep us reading just her books and so I have been thinking of what we could do while we wait As Patiently As Possible for her next books to come out. During my time with this group I have learned so much!! I have also been introduced to new authors, books and even songs (when we were discussing playlists). It has been fascinating to me and my girls at how much their and my mind and thinking has expanded just from our discussions and the books we've discussed, whether they were Emily's or if we somehow got onto a discussion of another book, author or subject. So.... I checked in with one of my other book groups and they are doing an interesting and unique challenge which is completely fascinating to me because you learn so much about the members, new books and authors and you have to think about your choices meanwhile its totally individualized and as hard or easy as you want it to be. The group was feeling frumpy and inbetween books waiting for their author to publish their next book so as a pick them up they had to think of a word that meant "Spring" to them. Let's say someone chose Flowers as their word. For each letter is a book, the letter can be in the authors name or title. They picked books from all genres which when the members posted their word and book choices it sparked a lot of neat discussions. This is just an idea. I just dont want us to run out of stuff to keep us in touch plus I know some of us are reviewers and this might be a way to do some of your side review work while also keeping up with the group and promoting any books you feel noteworthy. Love you guys,
Jina
Welcome to Release Day! We have a folder started for favorite quotes from Reunion Pass. While Emily is at the zoo today, I'll be working at the clinic - and it's going to be a long day. Reunion Pass is sitting on my Kindle, impatiently waiting for me - so I have a great reason to sneak my iPad to work and indulge during lunch.
Have a good one, everyone!
Have a good one, everyone!
Hey everyone.Just checking in, I have been so busy trying to research information for my parents home care that I am afraid I have neglected you.
My dad is becoming less and less able to remember things and he can not care for my mother any longer on his own. They are 81 and 82. I got a call from my brother and his news was quite troubling. My dad has been in excruciating pain since about a week after his surgery for nerve damage on his spine. My brother took him to the doctor on Monday and he has a fracture in his L5 vertebra. He does not know how it happened. They are doing a MRI and a bone density test tomorrow and hopefully we will know more then. It has become apparent that they can no longer live alone. It is not feasable for them to come here because of the damp climate my mom would be in constant pain and they would still need someone to be here with them all the time. My brother is looking for a home in Idaho with either two homes on it or a separate living quarters in one home. This will take time of course so I have been looking into home care for them.
I found a place in Bend Oregon (about 20 miles away from them) that does in-home care. They are called " Visiting Angels". Cool huh? If only Celeste was available to help with their care. lol I am going to contact them and inquire about the cost. If it is too expensive I will just have to continue my search. My Mom thinks we are trying to put them in a "HOME" which is not the case at all but she is failing and getting a bit cranky in her old age. My brother thinks they are not telling him the whole truth when he asks about their well being. He and my sister-in-law have started going to the doctor with them. He has power of attorney for them and is listed as executor on their will. My mom can no longer write and my dad lost part of his right hand in an accident years ago, so my brother drives down to their house each month and writes checks to pay their bills. He is making so many trips down there from his home, near Portland Oregon. that it is becoming a burden on his life and a detriment to his business. We have to do something. My other brother is living in his own little bubble of a world and doesn't seem to know there is a huge problem that needs addressing even though he was there when my dad had his surgery last month. ARRRRRRGGGG. Sorry to unload on you all. I just need to vent tonight I guess. I feel bad because I can't be there. Some idiot fell asleep at the wheel and plowed into my husbands car (and another guys as well) and totaled it. Now we are waiting for insurance to compensate for the loss and we are down to one car once again. I can't drive down there as I had planned. It's always something isn't it?
ANYWAY, that is whats going on in my world. lol I hope you all are fairing better than I am.
Take care and say a few prayers for us will you??
Hugs to all.
Linda Manthey
Dear Linda,We are here for you to vent to any time. I don't know how I would have gotten through everything with out your support! Now it is my time to hold you up. We went through all you are going through with my parents , but I was so far away ,them in Texas me in Montana, and at that time we were in no place money wise for me to go down there. I was so thankful that my Sister lived in the same city and had the money to take care of them. So lean on me, I have been through it and out the other side!
I will pray for all of you! Hugs Lola
Linda wrote: "Hey everyone.Just checking in, I have been so busy trying to research information for my parents home care that I am afraid I have neglected you.
My dad is becoming less and less able to remember..."
Linda,
We went thru this with both my Mom's parents and Dad's mother. Nothing can get solved quickly. I will be praying that you can find the home care that they need and your brother can find the right house /houses. Vetting is important. We are here and can support you as Lola said everyone seems to have things happening. Hope you were able to get some sleep.
Linda wrote: "Hey everyone.Just checking in, I have been so busy trying to research information for my parents home care that I am afraid I have neglected you.
My dad is becoming less and less able to remember..."
Linda, You vent as much as you like, it will relieve some of your pressure from a situation which is not easy to resolve especially at long distance. Most of us have to go through something similar at some stage in our lives & I keep thinking that our own children will also have to go through something similar with us. Keep your chin up, we are here for you.
You all are so wonderful. Thank you for your advice and for your friendship. I know this is a time of transition. It is just so hard to accept. I have always been a daddys girl and my mom has always been one of my heros. To see them change so drastically is unreal. It breaks my heart and I think I am mourning a loss that hasn't completely happened yet. If that makes sense. Thank you all for your support. Once I wrap my head around this I will become stronger and face it with God's grace and mercy.
It is hard to be so far away, but it can not be helped.
I just have to keep looking up and trust the Lord to lead me in the right direction.
Love and prayers to all of you. Peace be with you.
Linda Manthey
Hi Linda,
I've been MIA more than I'd like, recently, but you know you can lean on the group anytime at all and we will offer your family up in prayer as well as apply our collective wisdom to help you through this.
Nothing prepares us for this phase of life, because there is nothing like it. I've seen it from both sides, as a Director in a senior care community and as a daughter. I thought my experience in senior care would help when the time came, and it gave me insight, but it still didn't buffer me from the impact of watching my mom struggle with her memory and her physical health. My heart goes out to you.
You have to protect them as they once protected you. Giving up their sense of independence is painful and denial leads to anger, but you know that you're doing what has to be done to keep them safe. I know you will make the right choices.
If there is a senior advocacy group in their community, they may have good information that will help you along the way. They should know the local resources that are reliable and may help you narrow your choices.
Take care.
P
I've been MIA more than I'd like, recently, but you know you can lean on the group anytime at all and we will offer your family up in prayer as well as apply our collective wisdom to help you through this.
Nothing prepares us for this phase of life, because there is nothing like it. I've seen it from both sides, as a Director in a senior care community and as a daughter. I thought my experience in senior care would help when the time came, and it gave me insight, but it still didn't buffer me from the impact of watching my mom struggle with her memory and her physical health. My heart goes out to you.
You have to protect them as they once protected you. Giving up their sense of independence is painful and denial leads to anger, but you know that you're doing what has to be done to keep them safe. I know you will make the right choices.
If there is a senior advocacy group in their community, they may have good information that will help you along the way. They should know the local resources that are reliable and may help you narrow your choices.
Take care.
P
Paula wrote: "Hi Linda,I've been MIA more than I'd like, recently, but you know you can lean on the group anytime at all and we will offer your family up in prayer as well as apply our collective wisdom to hel..."
Thank you Paula.
It is good to get information from those who have been through this. I am the youngest of my siblings and I think it is maybe the hardest for me to adjust to. My oldest brother is almost 6 years older than me so I have trusted him to know the best thing to do since I was a child. Both of my brothers have always been very protective of me and we are a very close family. My other brother is 18 months older than me and my mom always said we were like twins. What one didn't do the other one did.lol I haven't spoken with him lately, I think I will call him on my day off and get a different perspective on the situation. My oldest brother said he has already exhausted all of the resources in my parents area and my mom has shot them all down. We may have to all get together and pull rank on her so to speak. She is afraid of losing her freedom I know, but even their doctors have told them they should no longer be living alone. My friends mom died of Parkinson's disease and I know how ugly the future may be. My dad can not handle taking care of my mom on his own. He is not physically or emotionally strong enough to cope with the ramifications of this disease. Especially with his back injury.
I am making notes to my future self to learn from this and prepare so I never put my boys through this. It is heartwrenching. But I have to become the parent now and help them to see what is best for them as they did for me when I was growing up.
You know, I think there is book fodder in her somewhere. lol. Sure seems like a lot of drama. lol
Well, have to get ready for work. I am closing tonight. I have to get to the bus stop on time.
Have a wonderful day and thanks for your prayers and great advice.
Linda Manthey
Linda, I don't know where your brother lives (apt, house, etc) but if he happens to own a house with a back yard have him check into small house that can be built with older folks with medical trouble. I remember seeing something about them on Facebook. If I can find it again I will let you know!Linda W
Wolf got Easter Egg Chickens last year, they lay all shades of blue from turquoise to army green, they sure kept him sane during his first year of retirement . We are going to give them away this fall, because he does not want to have them over the winter again and we are going to take a long trip to Texas spring of 20017. One thing about chickens you have to be around all the time.
Thanks for all the good prayers and wishes. Hugs Lola