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“We call this meeting the “State of the Union” because your job is to talk only about what’s gone right in your relationship.”
― John M. Gottman, The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy

“the ideal formula for nurturing good bilingual ability in a child involves being both extremely serious about the aim, and yet extremely playful about the approach.”
― Adam Beck, Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability

“The more serious you are about the aim, and the more playful you are about the approach, the more progress you’ll likely make on your bilingual journey.”
― Adam Beck, Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability

“No matter what it is we want a child to acquire—and that includes developing active ability in another language—the most effective way forward involves inspiring joy in the experience of that area of knowledge or skill.”
― Adam Beck, Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability

“In the end, what endures, what we truly marvel at, is not the ambition but the self-mastery. The self-awareness. The temperance.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Gehrig was not superhuman—he had the same voice in his head that all of us do. He just cultivated the strength—made a habit—of not listening to it. Because once you start compromising, well, now you’re compromised”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“By being a little hard on ourselves, it makes it harder for others to be hard on us. By being strict with ourselves, we take away others’ power over us.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“We don’t rise to the occasion, we fall to the level of our training.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Those who think that they can live a high spiritual life whose bodies are filled with idleness and luxuries are mistaken. Tolstoy”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“This means first, the discipline to step away and think: What am I doing? What are my priorities? What is the most important contribution I make—to my work, to my family, to the world? Then comes the discipline to ignore just about everything else.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“I ceaselessly chant the refrain,” Montaigne said, “anything you can do another day can be done now.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Losing is not always up to us . . . but being a loser is.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“What do I write about? Basically, whatever happens to be bubbling in my mind at the time, but my short entries seem to be mostly about these three things: 1. Observations of their language development 2. Observations of their personal traits and interests 3. Noteworthy incidents and experiences”
― Adam Beck, Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability

“To become actively bilingual, the child must receive sufficient exposure to the minority language and feel a genuine need to use it expressively.”
― Adam Beck, Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability

“TV, as a supplement to other activities, can certainly be a helpful component, but in order to foster active ability, a significant amount of this exposure must be active. In other words, interaction with the language, involving flesh-and-blood human beings, is the key to effective language development.”
― Adam Beck, Maximize Your Child's Bilingual Ability

“You disrespected your cause (which you deprived of your presence).”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Most happy people don’t need you to know how happy they are—they aren’t thinking about you at all.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Your best is good enough.” Not perfect. Your best. Leave the rest to the scoreboard, to the judges, to the gods, to fate, to the critics.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Nobody likes tyranny . . . why would you be a tyrant to yourself?”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Sometimes,” as Seneca would write from the perspective of his own crippling illnesses and then exile, “even to live is an act of courage.” And discipline too.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“Nearly every single one of the American founders—from Washington to Franklin to Adams and Henry—made some version of the argument that their novel system of government was impossible without virtue in the people.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“When we say that self-discipline saves us, part of what it saves us from is ourselves.”
― Ryan Holiday, Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control

“If you don’t own a piece of a business, you don’t have a path towards financial freedom.”
― Eric Jorgenson, The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness

“You’re never going to get rich renting out your time.”
― Eric Jorgenson, The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness

“Even if we do manage to get our act together, the goalposts for what counts as “good enough” seem always to remain frustratingly out of reach. We must be smart and fit and fashionable and interesting and successful and sexy. Oh, and spiritual, too.”
― Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

“Research suggests that all people self-enhance, but only on those traits valued by their culture.”
― Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

“research shows that highly self-critical people tend to be dissatisfied in their romantic relationships because they assume their partners are judging them as harshly as they judge themselves. The misperception of even fairly neutral statements as disparaging often leads to oversensitive reactions and unnecessary conflicts. This means that self-critics often undermine the closeness and supportiveness in relationships that they so desperately seek.”
― Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

“But when your entire sense of self-worth is based on being productive and successful, when failure is simply not allowed, then the striving to achieve becomes tyrannical.”
― Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

“We certainly feel the sting of falling short of our ideals, but our mind tends to focus on the failure itself, rather than the pain caused by failure.”
― Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

“We can’t be defined by what we are thinking and feeling when our consciousness is aware that we are thinking and feeling: otherwise, who is it that is being aware of our thoughts and feelings?”
― Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself