Pam McCarty > Pam's Quotes

“If you're feeling alone in your despair and grief, I want you to know you are not alone. You have an entire community of bereaved parents who understand your journey and are walking with you step-by-step. And you have God. He promises never to leave us, especially in our darkest hours.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“The moment a child leaves us, a parent’s heart feels different. Medically, this condition is called “broken heart syndrome,” but grieving parents knew this long before it was diagnosed and named by doctors.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“The loneliest time after a tragedy is the week or month when everyone goes home, and you new normal begins. The silence feels deafening when the crowds disappear, and you are left with a gaping hole in your heart.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“Holidays can be the most dreadful times, especially during the first few years after losing a loved one. Intense anxiety can build up as those sentimental seasons draw near and a chair sits empty.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“This state of grief was something I now understood. It's something that walks with you every day. Would there be sunny days again? There were many moments when i struggled to go on. But like Terri Irwin, I did see the light again. And you will too.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“As time passes, I am glad to have more days of the tide coming in and bringing joy and hope and laughter into my life. I’ve learned over the years to be steady on my feet at the beach. The ocean is tricky, and we never know when the next wave will knock us down. Rip currents can pull us out, drawing us away from the shore, far out to the treacherous sea of despair. Or the jellyfish can wash up on the sand, their tentacles releasing their wrenching poison----grief. I remain on guard against this wax and waning of life. Experience teaches us to be ready for not only the gleam and glisten of calm waters, but also for the grim and raging parts as well.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“You will grieve for a lifetime. Each person should be allowed to grieve in his or her own way and time. Some prefer the company of others, while others need space to be alone. Grief will never fully leave, but it should change as the healing journey progresses and we move through grief’s various stages.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“As long as it takes, I will lovingly labor to put together the timeless souvenirs of our life together. I cling to the phot books, for they hold my forever memories. If you don’t think photos are important, wait until they are all you have left.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“Healing is a gradual, tender process, not a sudden recovery.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss

“Grief taught me to appreciate the simple moments.”
― Pam K. McCarty, Grace for Grief: A Mother's Journey of Love and Loss