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“You are testing me constantly to discover how far you can push before I yield, how loud you can scream before I stop you, how bratty you can be before I hush you. You are discovering the boundaries of your world. At times I hesitate to let you know that you come with limits. I see your desire to be a superhero and your full faith that you are. I want to let your imagination be on fire. Yet I must also stop you and tell you that no matter what you believe, you cannot fly out of the window.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“None of your pain or brokenness, whatever particular form it may take, is who you really are. None of it ever touches your essential being. For this reason, whatever may have happened to you in the past doesn’t have to define you today.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“The truth is, many a modern child’s hectic schedule is more about the inability of parents to sit still than the child’s need to do so much.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“In fact, when we examine anxiety closely, it’s really a passive state—a distractor that allows us to fill our head with busy thoughts that appear to be active responses to our situation but in reality are powerless. Though we seek to impose control through the stance we take on an issue, by means of our thoughts, or by seeking to impose our will on others, we rarely take the action required to alter things.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“It’s no easy matter to accept that, ultimately, this journey of life is only ours to call our own. We fear we’ll feel isolated and lonely if we really claim our uniqueness. This is because, to the degree we are strangers to ourselves, we feel ill-equipped to nourish our own self. Little do we realize that it’s only through the experience of our unique path that we can experience both personal fulfillment and oneness with all beings.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“Basically, we are afraid to surrender to life as is, and this fear keeps us in reaction mode. Yet surrendering to our children’s spirit is imperative if we are to raise them with an ear to their true being. This we do by diving beneath our reactions, intellectualizing, and even know-how, simply meeting our children as they are, being to being.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“Children are as content with a little fruit for dinner as they are with a gourmet meal. Their eyes don’t search for things to attach to, but for things to let go of. Instead of imposing their will on life, they flow with the stream.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. It’s vulnerability that breeds with self-doubt and then is escalated, often deliberately, by fear.”
― Michelle Obama, Becoming

“your duty as a parent is to mirror your children’s inherent wholeness, out of which they will manifest who they are becoming. By mirroring their wholeness, you help them realize that who they are here and now is already their greatest achievement.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“It’s important to express gratitude to our children just for being who they are. Rarely do we thank them for who they are, yet we always want them to appreciate who we are.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“It’s important to regularly thank our children for sharing themselves with us. We can thank them for the wealth of meaning they bring into our life. We can thank them for their wisdom, kindness, passion, spontaneity, and liveliness.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children

“Whether children are six or sixteen, they yearn to have a meaningful connection with their parents. If the relationship becomes about control, judgment, reprimands, lectures, and pressure, a child will turn a deaf ear. However, if the relationship is about autonomy, empowerment, kinship, emotional freedom, and authenticity, what child would reject their parents?”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Emowering Our Children