Jessica Ortner > Jessica's Quotes

“A woman with confidence is hypnotic. A smile is mesmerizing. Presence, openness, a sense of humor—these are all things that make a woman attractive. We’ve all experienced the presence of someone who walks in and lights up a room. It’s never about their looks but about their energy. Allow yourself to light up the room by being your beautiful self.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“It suddenly hit me—it was nearly impossible to take good care of something I hated. I’d spent so long hating my body that I didn’t know how to respect and nurture myself or my body. By focusing so much on my exterior, I also robbed myself of the opportunity to feel good about myself and my body, simply because I didn't meet a cultural standard of beauty that is obsessed with thinness. That created stress that interfered with my weight loss and with my own happiness.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“It’s important to have goals and reach for your dreams, but it’s never a reason not to enjoy the present moment. Ultimately it’s the journey, not the result, that brings the most happiness.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“Many women sheepishly confess to hearing the words “You look like you lost weight” and thinking, So you thought I was fat before? When body image is a massive open wound, even the gentlest touch of a feather can burn. We can’t control what others say, but when we heal that wound we can choose to appreciate the soft touch of that feather and enjoy it as a compliment or simply ignore it.”
― Jessica Ortner

“We need to become friends with food again. It’s a relationship we need to spend time on and really invest in. When we go from obsessing about diet foods to eating foods that nourish us, from obsessing about losing weight to obsessing about learning how to thrive with better health, we enjoy the journey of discovering what is best for us.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“Because we haven’t been taught to appreciate and love ourselves in this way, we don’t feel like we deserve self-care and pleasure. Instead, we cling to our To Do lists and sacrifice our health and well-being for the sake of others. Then, when we feel deprived of our basic human need for relaxation and enjoyment, we turn to food as our sole source of pleasure. When we then try to deprive ourselves of food through dieting, we deny the last bit of pleasure we have in our lives. And that strategy never works!”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“The world doesn’t need us to be martyrs. The world needs our gifts. It needs our intelligence, our laughter, and yes, our love, but not love that looks and feels like self-sacrifice. The world needs us to take care of ourselves so we can shine brightly and inspire others to do the same. And again, we can’t give others what we ourselves don’t have. We can’t spread peace, love, or hope if we haven’t experienced those things ourselves.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“If we are not able to say no in the first place, we’ve set ourselves up for failure and burnout. When we allow ourselves to use that brake and say no, we can slow down, stop, and when needed, change directions. We no longer need to turn to food for relief because we feel more in control of our lives.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“The truth is that we won’t receive the support we need until we ask for it. Just because we can do it all doesn’t mean we should. And when we don’t speak up about our needs, we’re asking our loved ones to read our minds—and then we resent them when they fail our test. By not being open and honest about the support we need, we’re selling ourselves short and setting our relationships up for failure.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“The solution to this epidemic of perfection is to get out of our heads and into our bodies. When we connect with ourselves at a core level, we begin to value what we think more than what other people think.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More

“The most powerful way I know for you to lose weight and feel great in your body is to use tapping to clear your limiting emotions and beliefs so you can start listening to your inner voice. It’s time for you to start caring about what you think, so yes, go ahead and try that tango class, ask for a raise, and say no to people who drain you. Whatever your heart and body are telling you, it’s time to listen.”
― Jessica Ortner, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More