“Everyone who comes takes a little — a favour here, an hour there, your attention, your patience, the benefit of the doubt, one more small yes — each request reasonable, each taker likeable, and the sum of it, by evening, by year's end: knee height. Nothing left standing tall enough to flower.
People who feel this usually diagnose themselves with weakness, or exhaustion, or — the modern favourite — insufficient self-care, as though the answer were a scented bath. The gardener's diagnosis is simpler and has no shame in it at all: no fence. Not a character flaw. An infrastructure problem.”
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Matri,
The Spine