Candice Hopper-Owrey > Candice's Quotes

“cannot. They say, “I feel so alone. I am overwhelmed with sorrow. I am collapsing under the weight of the pain I am suffering from my loss. A part of me has died.” Tears are how our bodies respond to grief. Tears help us heal. In your grief, do what comes naturally: cry.”
― Donna M Berger, Living through Loss: A Memoir of Recovering Joy after Cumulative Grief

“When Jesus heard His friend Lazarus died, John 11:35 tells us, “Jesus wept.” Being human obligates us to the grief journey in times of loss.”
― Donna M Berger, Living through Loss: A Memoir of Recovering Joy after Cumulative Grief

“My independence has served me, but it has also hardened me. I am seeking balance.”
― Ken Nelson, Designing & Leading Life-Changing Workshops: Creating the Conditions for Transformation in Your Groups, Trainings, and Retreats

“I become myself. It's taken
Time, many years and places;
I have been dissolved and shaken,
Worn other people's faces . . . —May Sarton”
― Ken Nelson, Designing & Leading Life-Changing Workshops: Creating the Conditions for Transformation in Your Groups, Trainings, and Retreats

“Much mental and therefore neural activity flows through the brain like ripples on a river, with no lasting effects on its channel. But intense, prolonged, or repeated mental/neural activity—especially if it is conscious—will leave an enduring imprint in neural structure, like a surging current reshaping a riverbed. —”
― Ken Nelson, Designing & Leading Life-Changing Workshops: Creating the Conditions for Transformation in Your Groups, Trainings, and Retreats

“When you know how to harness the neuroplasticity of your brain in that moment, you can alter the pattern.”
― Ken Nelson, Designing & Leading Life-Changing Workshops: Creating the Conditions for Transformation in Your Groups, Trainings, and Retreats

“felt like doing was having nothing to do with anyone.”
― Burchett Jackson, Loss of a Parent: Adult Grief When Parents Die

“This book is about the bravery it takes for us to love someone when we all know how every love story ends. It’s about choosing love over fear again and again. It’s about showing up and being brave even when we know it’s going to hurt like hell.”
― Lucy Score, Things We Never Got Over

“Rosebush Visualisation (Allan, 1992). In brief, this involves inviting the client to become a rosebush, imagining the kind of bush, the type of flowers, the form of protection and nourishment, and the rosebush's location. Clients then draw or paint their imagined rosebush and discuss it with the therapist. This visualisation can be used for assessment or for therapeutic change. Our own visualisations have a similar aim. Each visualisation and therapeutic story in this book has an activity to go with it. This is to help clients think through and express what they have come to realise about themselves or their situation, past or present. We have used eight different techniques to enhance the experience: drawing, writing, clay, movement, paint, drama, collage/3D and human sculpting. These techniques are interchangeable. A particular client may find a preference for one type of activity, such as paint. If that is the case, the”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“garden Materials needed Paper, felt-tip pens, pencils, ballpoint pens. Instructions The therapist leads the visualisation: Get into a comfortable position and close your eyes if you want to.  Come with me. We are going into the garden. (PAUSE) It is morning in the middle of winter. (PAUSE) Put warm clothes on. (PAUSE) Coat. (PAUSE) Boots. (”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation is about self-image and self-esteem. Focusing on who the person is can help in the therapeutic process. Sharing it with others can make it even more positive. If you are using this visualisation in a group, consider getting willing members of the group to share with the others who they are.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“Friendship is a vital part of what Eric Berne described as ‘recognition hunger’, ‘the quest for special kinds of sensations which can only be supplied by another human being, or in some cases, by other animals’ (Berne, 1972/75, page 41). This”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This fun visualisation and activity will help clients to focus on what they need still to put in place in their lives. It can be used as a contract for therapeutic”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“have of themselves. Hiding behind the crowd may be because of shyness. It may also be because of self-esteem issues. Similarly, being the centre of attention may be because of self-assurance or a way of masking the real self. Bringing these aspects to the client’s attention through this visualisation may be a first step towards ‘unmasking’ and finding the true self.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This fun visualisation can be used to help clients discover internal resources they already have to head for adventure, face fears and overcome obstacles. It is important to prepare clients for the tough world they face outside the therapy room. Life is unfair, and it is important that clients learn to see difficulties as opportunities to conquer and learn from.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation can evoke powerful reactions in clients. Moving from a land of desolation to one of peace and joy could be seen as paralleling a script redecision. The hazards in the tunnel”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“Come back into the here and now, opening your eyes. Use the pens and paper to draw your experience of releasing your cares and worries into the sky using your kite. Objectives This simple yet effective visualisation can help clients to anchor a way to release their cares and troubles. By bringing to mind the picture of the kite flying high in the sky, the client has a concrete way to let go of difficulties, that are then figuratively, and hopefully in reality, ‘carried away’.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“As with drawing, using the nondominant hand to write after a visualisation can help to anchor in the creative part of the brain any changes decided. Research has shown that script changes are more effective when the”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation enables clients to find a safe place in their imagination where they can come at any time when things become difficult.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation will enable clients to look at their lives objectively. It will help them to become aware of where they are in life and where they are going. It also introduces the possibility of making script changes.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This is a visualisation specifically for survivors of child abuse, rape and domestic violence. It could also be used with other clients who have been hurt physically or emotionally. The visualisation gives some understanding of the suffering clients may have felt as well as their need for protection. It is intended gently to show survivors the way forward into freedom.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation is a form of relaxation in what is hopefully a familiar place. As the visualisation progresses it gives clients choices about how to build their unique scenario. Included within it are socialising and self-care. Clients are given permission to take care of themselves and to relax with friends. Writing a letter Materials needed Paper, pens.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation empowers clients to express their feelings on paper. Clients can write and say things, bringing hurts into the light that may have been buried for many years. It is important to remember that it is the client’s letter, and each client can interpret this visualisation in his or her own unique way.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This relaxing visualisation enables clients to look at their identity and uniqueness, becoming aware of where they have come from and where they are going. It may take clients a while to interpret and make their own, perhaps thinking it through and working on it between sessions. Once they have discovered their own unique song, it can help them move on in a positive way.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation could be used when helping a client through depression. It gives clients the opportunity to look at other points of view, not just their existing one. Helping clients to find a positive outlook could be one more step in their moving forward in life’s journey.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“This visualisation take the client on a journey. The story is about the troubles in life and how we respond to them. Clients have choices during the visualisation so they are able to make their own story. The mountain climb gives clients a chance to reflect on their life so far and to acknowledge and celebrate successes along the way.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“The Lonely Ballerina paints a scene of a client who is stuck and unable to move forward. As the story progresses, the ballerina realises that she can take control of her life and ownership of her future. This story gives clients”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“Now, using the clay make a model of your experience during the visualisation. Objectives The flight in a light aircraft takes clients through a range of emotions. All the way through the visualisation clients make choices for themselves. This gives them control of how their own story develops. Clients can experience different emotions throughout the flight. They are encouraged to acknowledge their own thoughts and feelings.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“In this visualisation the client experiences a motorbike journey. Is this true adventure or a scary nightmare? Each client will have his or her own interpretation of the story. During the visualisation clients are making decisions and owning their feelings.”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy

“Using clay, recreate the hole in which you can throw your trouble and anxiety. Throw them in and press more clay on the top. Then squash the ball of clay, destroying those negative feelings.   Objectives This nautical visualisation is about life and all its difficulties. The client is taken through hazards at sea”
― Roger Day, Stories That Heal: 64 creative visualisations for use in therapy