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“You combine insecurity and ambition, and you get an inability to say no to things.”
― Jon Ronson, So You've Been Publicly Shamed

“Facebook is where you lie to your friends, Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers.”
― Jon Ronson, So You've Been Publicly Shamed

“Joseph Heath and Andrew Potter, both philosophers, wrote a book about this in 2004 called The Rebel Sell. It’s available in the United States as Nation of Rebels. The central theme of the book is you can’t rage against the machine through rebellious consumption. Here’s”
― David McRaney, You Are Not So Smart: Why You Have Too Many Friends on Facebook, Why Your Memory Is Mostly Fiction, and 46 Other Ways You're Deluding Yourself

“having coauthored The Wrong Guys: False Confessions and the Norfolk Four, a book about four U.S. Navy sailors who, under intense police pressure and without”
― Beverly Lowry, Who Killed These Girls?: Cold Case: The Yogurt Shop Murders

“including one entitled Criminal Investigative Failures. Having read the Chronicle article and seen the KXAN-TV broadcast, Rossmo”
― Beverly Lowry, Who Killed These Girls?: Cold Case: The Yogurt Shop Murders

“After Etan: The Missing Child Case that Held America Captive.”
― Joaquin Sapien, Missing: A Boy and the Evidence Against His Accused Killer

“Our definition of neglect has stretched to prevent parents from determining when their children are ready for even a modest amount of autonomy, and sacrifices developmentally appropriate skill building to fears of the unknown. While we might write off the Japanese as crazy, our American insistence on children being observed and accompanied at all times makes us look like the crazy ones. Ironically—and quite cruelly (if you pause a moment to think about it)—the unexamined harm these days is that our kids grow up believing that an evil stranger, a fellow shopper in the grocery store, or worse, a neighbor offering candy at Halloween wants to do them harm or that their own parent is putting them in harm’s way. FENDING OFF THE FEARS”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Dr. Sheri Fink put it all together in Five Days at Memorial, a searing account of what happened when the backup generators failed, the water taps went dry, the”
― David Oshinsky, Bellevue: Three Centuries of Medicine and Mayhem at America's Most Storied Hospital

“MIS)SHAPING THE WAY THEY DREAM In April 2014 former Yale English professor William (“Bill”) Deresiewicz spoke to a crowd at Stanford about whether students at elite colleges are really just “excellent sheep.” His book by the same name would come out a few months later.”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“In the long sticky hours of boredom, in the lonely, unsupervised, unstructured time, something blooms; it was in those margins that we became ourselves.1 —Katie Roiphe, In Praise of Messy Lives Until”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood Not”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Jennifer Senior in her 2014 TED Talk”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Before the mountains call to you, before you leave this home I want to teach your heart to trust, as I will teach my own But sometimes I will ask the moon where it shined upon you last And shake my head and laugh and say, “it all went by so fast.” —Singer/songwriter Dar Williams, “The One Who Knows,” from the album The Beauty of the Rain Dar”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“In his 2005 best seller Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder, he”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Read Hanna Rosin’s 2014 article “The Overprotected Kid”7 about one such place in the United Kingdom called “The Land” and think about how to create that kind of place,”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Send your kid to a summer camp focused on free play. One such place is Gever Tulley’s Tinkering School—a sleepover summer camp in Half Moon Bay, California (half an hour south of San Francisco, on the Pacific coast). • Consider schools that value student-driven learning and play, such as Montessori schools, which exist nationwide. 10.”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Riveropolis—an organization that creates furniture and sculpture that “brings the magic of running water” to schools, museums, and public”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Playborhood, which documents these efforts, and more, as well as his overarching philosophy.8 I”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“The mountain climber takes pride in planting his flag at the top because it took a lot to get there. If he took a helicopter it wouldn’t feel the same. In facilitating success parents are paradoxically guaranteeing that a kid can’t achieve it on his own.1 —David McCullough Jr., teacher, Wellesley High School, author of You Are Not Special: and Other Encouragements Compared”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“In 2000, a German researcher named Andreas Schleicher developed the Program for International Student Assessment test (PISA) to help nations determine whether their teenagers had the thinking skills necessary to succeed in the twenty-first century at college, in the workplace, and in life.4”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“The Foundation for Critical Thinking”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Educator Jennifer Fox, author of Your Child’s Strengths: A Guide for Parents and Teachers, would agree. In her book she explains that you can help kids get to the heart of understanding a matter by asking them the question “Why?” five times.11 I call it the continual questioning approach. TIPS”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“As Denise Pope outlined in “Doing School,” kids today have tremendous pressure to simply get the work done—to “do school”—rather than to learn. They learn to do tasks, to produce every element the teacher wants to see in a five-paragraph essay, or to memorize every term in bio and every formula in math. They think their next task is to get into certain schools in order to be a success in life, and this mind-set often then extends to career and professional pursuits. I”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“That I expect them to break the rules and to climb up to the highest branch and saw it off behind them. I tell them that risk and open-ended problems are what we do in design. Design is a problem-solving methodology not a ‘task’ and this will be hard because they have only had tasks so far in their education.”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Dweck’s website, mindsetonline.com, teaches a step-by-step approach to developing “growth mindset.”15”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Educators and psychologists have a mantra these days: No matter how hectic the schedules of your family members may be, make time to have dinner together. Research shows that family dinners help kids feel they matter to the parent, and as a result they have a positive impact on kids’ mental health and lead to greater self-esteem and greater academic achievement. In addition to talking to our kids about their day or their lives, talking to them about current events scales the level of critical thinking up a level—to”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way, Amanda Ripley explains that around the world the kids whose parents engaged them in conversation about books, movies, and current events scored better on the reading portion of the international PISA test.”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“Millennials: We Suck and We’re Sorry—”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“psychologist Wendy Mogel, best-selling author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B Minus,”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

“articles on the Web such as Patricia Smith’s 2009 article in education.com, “Pitch In! Getting Your Kids to Help with Chores,” Esther Davidowitz’s 2012 article “Get Kids to Pitch In” in parenting.com, and freelance health writer Annie Stuart’s piece “Divide and Conquer Household Chores” for WebMD.com. Based on my review of various sources and my own life experience, here are my tips for how to get kids to step outside of the comfort of doing as little as possible and into the zone of doing one’s part.12 1.”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success