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“The researchers also found that each style corresponded to very different and unique beliefs and attitudes about themselves, their partners, their relationships, and intimacy in general.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Not only do they influence how we feel about ourselves but also the degree to which we believe in ourselves and whether we will attempt to achieve our hopes and dreams.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“in order to thrive and grow as human beings, we need a secure base from which to derive strength and comfort. For that to happen, our attachment system must be calm and secure.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“True love, in the evolutionary sense, means peace of mind.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“being your authentic self, which has been found to contribute to our general feelings of happiness and fulfillment, and being happy and fulfilled is probably one of the most attractive traits you can offer a partner.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“a series of studies aimed at accessing subjects’ unconscious minds (by measuring how long it takes them to report words that flash quickly on a monitor, as described in chapter 6) compared the reactions of people with anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles. The studies found that secures have more unconscious access to themes such as love, hugs, and closeness and less access to danger, loss, and separation.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“one of the tools most frequently used by people with a secure attachment style is effective communication—they simply surface their feelings and see how their date reacts.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Studies have found that the same areas in the brain that light up in imaging scans when we break a leg are activated when we split up with our mate.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Expressing your needs and expectations to your partner in a direct, nonaccusatory manner is an incredibly powerful tool.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“secures are better able to understand their partner’s perspective and maintain focus on the problem.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“the secure partner (or partners) remains “present” both physically and emotionally.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Effectively expressing your emotional needs is even better than the other person magically reading your mind.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“A general word of advice: It’s always more effective to assume the best in conflict situations. In fact, expecting the worst—which is typical of people with insecure attachment styles—often acts as a self-fulfilling prophecy.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Relationships are one of the most rewarding of human experiences, above and beyond other gifts that life has to offer.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Relationships are one of the most rewarding of human experiences, above and beyond other gifts that life has to offer. In fact, one study found that 73 percent of over three hundred university student participants were willing to sacrifice the majority of their goals in life for a romantic relationship.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Now the circus is open. Now you may enter.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“He stands for some time in the spot where he found Celia hours before, scrutinizing the familiar bookshelves and the wall of stained glass. He cannot guess what she might have been doing. And he does not notice the eyes staring at him from the shadows.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“He spends almost every night there, and during the day he sits in his rented flat or at the pub with a glass of wine and a journal and he writes about it. Pages and pages of observations, recounting his experiences, mostly so he will not forget them but also to capture something of the circus on paper, something he can hold on to.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“I would dearly love to read the reactions, the observations of each and every person who walks through the gates of Le Cirque des Rêves, to know what they see and hear and feel. To see how their experience overlaps with my own and how it differs.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“I would dearly love to read the reactions, the observations of each and every person who walks through the gates of Le Cirque des Rêves, to know what they see and hear and feel. To see how their experience overlaps with my own and how it differs. I have been fortunate enough to receive letters with such information, to have rêveurs share with me writings from journals or thoughts scribbled on scraps of paper. We add our own stories, each visitor, each visit, each night spent at the circus. I suppose there will never be a lack of things to say, of stories to be told and shared.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“The sensation of a cat brushing past his legs is so genuine that he looks down expecting to see it, but there is nothing on the floor”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“There are so many things she wants to say, things she feared she would never have the opportunity to tell him again. Only one seems truly important. “I love you,” she says.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“It has never crossed Bailey’s mind that he could do such things himself, but having been told as much so simply and directly, it seems strangely achievable.”
― Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

“polyamory takes courage.”
― Franklin Veaux, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

“He had no language for what he felt, no community support, no role models, no one to talk to or learn from.”
― Franklin Veaux, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

“He had no language for what he felt, no community support, no role models, no one to talk to or learn from. He had to find his own way, and so he got to make all the mistakes on his own.”
― Franklin Veaux, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

“Imagine yourself as a tree. Your roots go deep into the soil; it nourishes and supports you. They’re fed by the rain, which keeps your sap flowing. Your leaves are bathed in sunlight, which provides energy.”
― Franklin Veaux, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

“Todo hombre debe ser capaz de todas las ideas y entiendo que en el porvenir lo será.”
― Jorge Luis Borges, Ficciones

“Debe tratarse de una broma de nuestro amigo, mal escuchada.”
― Jorge Luis Borges, Ficciones

“Comprendió con cierta amargura que su hijo estaba listo para nacer —y tal vez impaciente. Esa noche lo besó por primera vez”
― Jorge Luis Borges, Ficciones