Kyle > Kyle's Quotes

“Children experience loneliness like shame. They imagine the reason they are alone is that there is something wrong with them, that they have done something bad, something that makes them too gross to touch.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“Some people are likable simply because they give off the constant impression that they like you, and something about this trait is calming and easy to trust.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“Children with attachment disorders grow up to have difficulty in relationships, which they seek out of need and then destroy out of fear, resulting in a lack of self-worth and a sense of isolation.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“Our personal space is violated by such parents who do not recognize our need or desire for space, because they see us only as extensions of themselves.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“The attachment disorder made us unable to trust close relationships because the first thing we ever learned is that people leave you. Then it also made us panic at the prospect of being alone. It’s slow, difficult, excruciating work.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“Children of narcissists learn their feelings don’t matter to the narcissistic parent. The child carries an ever-present sense that he must bury his own ideas about the world, his own self, and do the thing required of him to please the narcissist, to receive the impossible-to-reach love and approval he craves. In short he doesn’t really know himself because he spends his life seeking to fulfill the fantasy world of the narcissistic parent.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“When you peel away all the layers of masculinity--the cleverness, power, sarcasm, the strength we built (or faked), the toughness (which is really just quiet suffering), white knuckles, bodies covered in boots and beards, muscles, green ink skulls, arrows, and ghosts, hearts surrounded as if by barbed wire--what you see is a sad boy in the dark afraid that he will always be alone because that is the first thing he ever learned about life.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park

“You’re gonna have to accept that your trauma caused him trauma. It’s hard for kids to deal with emotional abuse. You crossed all boundaries. You neglected his needs. You made him your caretaker. I don’t know what to tell you. That’s abuse.”
― Mikel Jollett, Hollywood Park