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“Many things—especially the nonphysical—can’t be measured or understood through science. Take the unseen forces of guilt and shame. You can’t measure them, but they can drive people to destruction. The same is true about love. You can’t put your finger on it, but it can cause people to move mountains.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Nothing can divide us, not even death!”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“A man cannot offer what he does not have! If a man fills his heart with hatred, he can offer hatred; if he fills his heart with kindness, he can offer kindness.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“You know, the ego is very insecure. . . . It uses judgment as armor to protect itself. The ego judges others to shield itself from its own insecurities, which are based on fear. The ego, needing to be special, feeds on constant approval and needs enemies in order to be superior—it raises itself up by putting others down. . . . In other words, by judging others,” Ethel explained, gathering the ingredients for piecrust. “People have a never-ending fear-based dialogue with their egos, which is a source of much unhappiness. They’re afraid of not being good enough, being wrong, not being in control, losing their possessions, being shamed, being judged, not being smart enough, being ugly, being rejected, being destitute, being old and alone. And ultimately, they’re afraid of dying.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Energy is a potential—it remains dormant without time. Therefore, time is the greatest force in nature because, without time, nothing happens. And regardless of whether time is linear or nonlinear, as it is here, it doesn’t matter. The point remains the same: No matter what order you put the past, present, and future in, without time, none of it happens!”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Like a raindrop making its way from a cloud to a stream to a river and finally becoming one with the ocean. Our souls remain singular and, at the same time, become one with the sea of energy of all that was, is, and ever will be—we’re part of the whole.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“I understand that forgiveness is a virtuous quality, but you might as well be asking me to cross a great chasm without a bridge. I need a way to reach the land of forgiveness—a bridge across the chasm of bitterness and hate.”
― Charlie Bynar

“That’s it!” Charlie said, pausing the audiobook. “I knew there was something in this book I needed to remember. Billy Pilgrim is saying that the most important thing he learned is that it only appears that we’re dead at the time of our death and that all moments—past, present, and future—have always existed. He says that it’s only an illusion ‘that one moment follows another one, like beads on a string.’ What he’s saying is that even though the moments in our lives pass, they still exist and always will.”
Charlie continued, “It reminds me of what Robert Lanza said in Biocentrism—that death is an illusion, and there are an infinite number of ‘now’ moments in a person’s life that are not arranged in a linear fashion. What if those ‘now’ moments are like the still frames of a stop-motion picture—they only appear to be moving because they’re played rapidly in sequence, but the individual frames are inanimate? Then, the individual frames—the ‘now’ moments in someone’s life— are like the individual beads on a string, separated only by the smallest unit of length, the Planck length. If you removed the string, the individual beads—all the ‘now’ moments in a person’s life—would float around the person like bubbles in the air but remain connected to that person through quantum entanglement.”
Chris listened intently.
“If that were the case,” Charlie said, “then one of our bubbles—one of our ‘now’ moments—would be us driving in this car right now, and another bubble would be when you, Isaac, and I were hiking to the teahouse in Canada, and still another bubble would be the moment Isaac died. If you remember, Robert Lanza said that our bodies die at the moment we call death, but our consciousness only moves from one ‘now’ moment to another. What Kurt Vonnegut is saying is similar . . . that a person is in bad shape at the time of death, but he’s perfectly fine in so many other moments. They’re both saying death is not the end— that there are an infinite number of ‘now’ moments in a person’s life.”
“I remember you telling me that Allison said time was different on the other side,” Chris added. “I wonder if our bubbles that surround us, our ‘now’ moments—the past, present, and future—which all exist simultaneously and forever, would explain why mediums can see into the past and future. Those ‘now’ moments would be no further away from us than the present.”
“Good point!” Charlie said. “I didn’t think of that. Apparently, Robert Lanza, Allison, and Kurt Vonnegut are saying similar things, but from very different angles.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Chris didn’t come to know unconditional love willingly—it was forced upon him by circumstance. As he’s battled cancer, little by little, he’s been forced to relinquish his independence . . . his control of the situation. When Chris finally surrendered and trusted Charlie to care for his every need, that’s when he finally found unconditional love. At last, Chris understood that unconditional love carries no shield—that it’s based on trust.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Life is like the two sides of a coin: sometimes brutal, other times full of wonder and joy. I accept both, and I’m not afraid of either. I can lean into both and learn the lessons each has to offer. Doing this would help me get out of my victim mode and do something good with this terrible situation. I’m so thankful to see the world from this new perspective—what an incredible gift Isaac has given me from the other side.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Why are some people’s lives so hard and painful?”
“It goes back to the two-sided coin. The opposite sides are needed to complete the lesson. Some lives seem very difficult, and others seem relatively easy, but both pose different lessons. If a person needs to learn self-respect, they might return and have an abusive relationship with a family member who pushes those boundaries. That situation encourages individuals to stand up for themselves and draw healthy boundaries. But if you come back to learn compassion or empathy, living a life of luxury can cause a person to be complacent, and therefore, they might live their whole life without learning their lesson. An easy life might set a person up for a more challenging lesson than a difficult life. They might get so caught up in their life of luxury that they see no reason for soul searching, and as a result, they never learn their lessons. Imagine an individual driving down the road, seeing a repeating sign—LIFE LESSON . . . LIFE LESSON—but they pay it no mind; they just keep driving! Hopefully, they’ll make a U-turn; otherwise, they’ve missed their exit—their opportunity to learn an important lesson.”
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“Honestly, it has been an extraordinary journey . . . so extraordinary that some people questioned whether the things I told them were the truth. Then again, people often question things they haven’t experienced, because they have no reference point.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“I N THE WAKE OF THE STORM, I sat at my kitchen table, drinking coffee, trying to make sense of everything that had happened. One minute, I was remembering my cat, Schmiggs, sitting on the kitchen table. Black saucers filled his green eyes as he craned his neck, clearly looking at something—someone—down the hall that I couldn’t see.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“The smallest unit of matter is an atom, which is made of particles. Einstein and Schrödinger theorized there was a connection between entangled particles, even though they couldn’t detect one. Scientists have recently proved their theory correct by photographing two particles of light that were entangled. Using a beam splitter, scientists sent two entangled particles of light down a tube where, at a junction, they were split apart and then photographed. Although they had been separated, both entangled particles were positioned at zero degrees, and they looked like mirror images of a crescent moon facing each other, proving that they were somehow still connected. Then the scientists repeated the experiment but changed the orientation of one entangled particle to forty-five degrees, and its entangled twin instantaneously corresponded, matching its forty-five-degree orientation. Again, they repeated the experiment, orienting one entangled particle ninety degrees and one hundred thirty-five degrees, and the entangled twin instantaneously corresponded regardless of the distance between the entangled particles!”
“That would explain the connection people have with one another!” Isaac said. “Since we’re all made of a zillion particles, then some of our particles might be entangled with particles of people we love. This would explain why one entangled person sometimes gets a gut feeling or premonition about their entangled loved one. They might share an invisible connection, regardless of how far apart they are. They remain connected through entanglement—not even death can separate them! This must be the case with my mom and me.”
“That would also explain the special bond I share with Mable,” Melba said, referencing her sister who was still alive. She smiled. “We’re entangled twins.” “That’s pretty awesome,” Shane said. “But, Isaac, if you’re right, then we could argue that we’re all connected through entanglement— not just some of us.”
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“When people are overwhelmed with physical or emotional pain, it’s hard to get through to them, let alone when talking to someone who’s crossed over,” Shane said. “People put up defensive walls to protect themselves, but this makes it very difficult to reach them in their time of need. Very few people can hear us when we talk to them.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Some ancient Egyptians slept in special rooms designed for the purpose of receiving divine revelations in their dreams from a deceased relative. Many visions received in dreams are also recorded in the Bible, especially in the books of Genesis, Kings, Daniel, Acts, Numbers, Job, and Matthew. And many Native Americans believe they receive visions from their ancestors in their dreams. There are countless other examples of ancestors communicating with their loved ones in this way throughout history. It worked for all of them. . . . It might work for you.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“She’s entered a dark place, and you must try to guide her through it,” Shane said. “On the mountain, your mom was facing physical danger, but now she’s facing relentless sorrow—a formidable opponent for even the strongest individuals. This is a defining point in your mom’s life. Either this situation will force her to find the wisdom she seeks, or she’ll fall prey to the darkness.”
“That’s why before I crossed over, I left my mom a message in my journal: Everything is a gift, even pain, and with these gifts, we pursue knowledge and eradicate hate. I knew she’d be facing this nightmarish journey, and I hoped it would help give her the strength to overcome the challenges,” Isaac said. “It seems counterintuitive, but sometimes pain can lead people to surprising gifts. I learned this from being a special needs kid. When you’re ridiculed for your disabilities, it causes one to do a lot of soul searching. Physical pain is a warning sign to help prevent someone from injuring themselves, whereas emotional pain can force people out of their comfort zones and cause them to reevaluate their perspectives on issues they’re struggling with. In doing so, they can find valuable insights, clarity of mind, and wisdom. In this way, pain is a bridge to obtaining those gifts. When people are content, they have little reason to reevaluate their perspectives. As a result, they’re less likely to find the priceless gifts that are theirs for the taking. Although this concept is challenging, especially when we’re in the eye of the storm, sometimes we learn the most from difficult journeys. . . . It’s easier to appreciate once the storm has passed, but you already know this.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“People intersect many crossroads in their lifetime, and the crossroad your mom faces now will force her to either hold on to her preconceived view that death is the end or reevaluate it. If she chooses to hold on to her views, she will likely take her own life. But Charlie has one thing working to her advantage—love is greater than pain and darkness combined. Since her love for you is unwavering, hopefully, it will give her the strength she needs to reevaluate her views of death and obtain the wisdom she’s seeking—that death is a transition, not an end. If she succeeds, Charlie will know that nothing can truly separate the two of you! She’ll emerge from the darkness, able to find a renewed purpose in life.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“One of the reasons people sleep is to contact people on the other side.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“As their angels, we can help guide them by giving them signs, insights, and intuitions, but ultimately, it’s their decision what they do with that information. They can choose to heed the calling—advice we give them—or not. But whatever situation they’re facing, trying and falling short is far better than not trying at all, because either way, their actions or inactions reveal their motives—their intentions—which, of course, they’ll review after they cross over.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Energy is what energy does—it’s defined by what it’s doing!”
― Charlie Bynar

“People prefer finite ideas. They’re easier to understand, and having all the loose ends nicely wrapped up makes people feel more comfortable . . . more in control. Certain. It makes them feel less vulnerable to the unknown. The infinite, on the other hand, makes them more likely to tie themselves into knots, trying to define that which cannot be defined rather than accept an unknown. Still, energy, space, and time aren’t finite; they’re infinite. They can’t be wrapped up nicely in a box.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“I wish they knew that it makes it much easier for us to receive their messages when they ask us directly for guidance. It makes it easier to help and possibly even to prevent them from making bad mistakes.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“In the end, my mom, who was my sister at the time, and I decided the coin represented two sides of one lesson, neither good nor bad, just two different experiences to learn from. Even more importantly, the coin symbolized that since we’re two sides of the same coin, nothing can truly divide us—there’s no coin with one side!”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“If energy were a liquid, it would pour from this jar and ripple through four-dimensional space-time—the three dimensions of space plus time—which of course won’t happen, since it’s not a liquid. However, since energy does follow a person’s intentions, their actions do ripple through space-time. Therefore, it’s best to be mindful of our actions, as they have a big impact on others.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“It’s a time for the possibility of new beginnings. I say ‘possibility’ because, as you know, one must choose to walk the steps to a new beginning to receive their gifts.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“People often numb their pain with drugs and alcohol, but they’re not always aware that they’re also numbing their ability to feel pleasure, excitement, and love. Substances don’t selectively dull emotions—they dull them across the board. When you live life fully, you have front-row seats to both pain and pleasure, which honestly sounds a little rough. The key is to take one step back—to not identify with the mind or body—and then experience those emotions while remaining unattached to them. That way, a person can experience life fully without suffering and also gain the clarity of mind to choose wisely. Of course, all that’s easier said than done.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“What do you mean? I don’t understand,” Hazel asked, wiping her tears. “Why couldn’t he apologize? All he had to do was say he was sorry and stop drinking. It’s not that difficult! But he did neither; he just abandoned me and all you kids.”
“It’s harder than you think because we’re talking about two different kinds of apologies; one stems from guilt and the other from shame. Let me explain. Suppose I accidentally spilled coffee on Ethel’s favorite tablecloth. I’d immediately apologize for my mistake and wash it to make sure it didn’t leave a stain,” Shane said. “This type of apology is simple because it only draws into question a single accident. I’m guilty only of making a mistake. But things get much more complicated when an apology draws into question someone’s self-worth. Then we’re talking about shame—the feeling that I am bad rather than I did something bad.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“People who do the worst things often don’t apologize, because it requires them to face their actions, which causes them to question their self-worth. To avoid that, they turn a blind eye to their actions and superficially prop themselves up by blaming others because if they face their actions, their low selfworth places them on thin ice. The fear of falling through and drowning in profound shame and self-loathing causes them to deflect their responsibility out of self-preservation. It’s easier to blame others or abandon the situation altogether than face their actions.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“I’m not sure I understand,” Hazel said, holding back her anger. “You’re saying I’m supposed to forgive him even though he never said he was sorry?”
“Yes, not out of respect for him, but out of respect for yourself. Don’t let any person or situation make you into someone you don’t want to be!” Shane said. “Hasn’t he taken enough from you already? Let him carry the burden of his actions when he crosses over. . . . They’re not yours to carry, and holding on to them only robs you of your happiness. If you can forgive him, knowing he will own his actions during his life review when he crosses over, it will set you free from the heavy burden of being judge and jury.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side