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“Instead of habitual, automatic reactions, our words become conscious responses based firmly on awareness of what we are perceiving, feeling, and wanting.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

“Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

“The Sufi poet RUmi once wrote, "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

“In the world of judgments, our concern centers on "who is what.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“The use of the common expression "have to", as in "There are some things you have to do, whether you like it or not," illustrates how personal responsibility for our actions can be obscured in speech. The phrase "makes one feel", as in "You make me feel guilty," is another example of how language facilitates denial of personal responsibility for own feelings and thoughts.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Yes, I can handle your telling me what I did or didn't do, And I can handle your interpretations, but please don't mix the two.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Our language is an imperfect instrument created by ancient and ignorant men. It is an animistic language that invites us to talk about stability and constants, about similarities and normal and kinds, about magical transformations, quick cures, simple problems, and final solutions.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“I've looked as hard as I can look but never ever seen a cook; I saw a person who combined ingredients on which we dined”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“The mature person becomes able to differentiate feelings into as many nuances, strong and passionate experiences, or delicate and sensitive ones as in the different passages of music in a symphony.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“In the course of developing emotional responsibility, most of us experience three stages: (1) "emotional slavery"--believing ourselves responsible for the feelings of others, (2) "the obnoxious stage"--in which we refuse to admit to caring what anyone else feels or needs, and (3) "emotional liberation"--in which we accept full responsibility for our own feelings but not the feelings of others, while being aware that we can never meet our own needs at the expense of others”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Depression is the reward we get for being "good".”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Don't just do something, stand there.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“We know a speaker has received adequate empathy when (1) we sense a release of tension, or (2) the flow of words comes to a halt.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Likewise, if we find ourselves unable or unwilling to empathize despite our efforts, it is usually a sign that we are too starved for empathy to be able to offer it to others. Sometimes, if we openly acknowledge that our own distress is preventing us from responding empathically, the other person may come through with the empathy we need.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“I scream nonviolently by calling attention to my own desperate needs and pain in the moment.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“I'd suggest the best time to interrupt is when we've heard one word more than we want to hear.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“And I want him to know the subtle, sneaky, important reason why he was born a human being and not a chair.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“In our language there is a word with enormous power to create shame and guilt ("should")”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“When I behaved in the way which I now regret, what need of mine was I trying to meet?”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“When I advise, "Don't do anything that isn't play!" some take me to be radical, even insane, I earnestly believe, however, that an important form of self-compassion is to make choices motivated purely by our desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, duty, or obligation”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Hurting people is too superficial.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Our need is for the other person to truly hear our pain.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Saying "thank you" in NVC: "This is what you did, this is what I feel; this is the need of mine that was met.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments, however positive, and are sometimes intended to manipulate the behaviour of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Throughout this book, I will use the term capitalism to designate both the idea of capitalism as a market economy and the idea that it is organized through a particular kind of class structure”
― Elik Olin Wright

“Two general kinds of motivations are in play in these diverse forms of struggle within and over capitalism: class interests and moral values.”
― Elik Olin Wright

“Three clusters of values are central to the moral critique of capitalisM: equality/fairness, democracy/freedom, and community/solidarity.”
― Elik Olin Wright

“The context of freedom is decisions and actions that only affect the person making the decision; the context of democracy is decisions and actions that affect other people as well.”
― Elik Olin Wright

“Community/solidarity expresses the principle that people ought to cooperate with each other not simply because of what they personally receive, but also from a real commitment to the well-being of others and a sense of moral obligation that it is right to do.”
― Elik Olin Wright

“Most participants in labor markets need a job much more than any employer needs their labor. The result is an inherent imbalance of power between capital and labor. In a globalized economy where capital can easily move around the world seeking the most favorable sites for investment but labor is much more rooted in particular places, this power imbalance further intensifies, generating a very specific kind of economic inequality: exploitation.”
― Elik Olin Wright