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“Choosing authenticity is not an easy choice. E. E. Cummings wrote, “To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself—means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight—and never stop fighting.” “Staying real” is one of the most courageous battles that we’ll ever fight.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“When we experience something that is difficult and requires significant time and effort, we are quick to think, This is supposed to be easy; it’s not worth the effort, or, This should be easier: it’s only hard and slow because I’m not good at it. Hopeful self-talk sounds more like, This is tough, but I can do it.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“Whether we’re overcoming adversity, surviving trauma, or dealing with stress and anxiety, having a sense of purpose, meaning, and perspective in our lives allows us to develop understanding and move forward. Without purpose, meaning, and perspective, it is easy to lose hope, numb our emotions, or become overwhelmed by our circumstances. We feel reduced, less capable, and lost in the face of struggle. The heart of spirituality is connection. When we believe in that inextricable connection, we don’t feel alone.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“Betrayal is an important word with this guidepost. When we value being cool and in control over granting ourselves the freedom to unleash the passionate, goofy, heartfelt, and soulful expressions of who we are, we betray ourselves. When we consistently betray ourselves, we can expect to do the same to the people we love. When we don’t give ourselves permission to be free, we rarely tolerate that freedom in others. We put them down, make fun of them, ridicule their behaviors, and sometimes shame them. We can do this intentionally or unconsciously. Either way the message is, “Geez, man.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“Life is waiting everywhere, the future is flowering everywhere, but we only see a small part of it and step on much of it with our feet.”
― Hermann Hesse

“The Abracadabra Principle. Most people associate the word abracadabra with magicians pulling rabbits out of hats. It’s actually an Aramaic term that translates into English as, “I will create as I speak.” It’s a powerful concept. It’s why Edison often announced the invention of a device before he’d actually invented it. It’s why Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million long before he ever made a movie. This principle simply says, “Whatever you focus on expands,” and in the experiment you’ll learn that there’s no such thing as an idle thought and that all of us are way too cavalier and tolerant of our minds’ wandering.”
― Pam Grout, E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” —Maya Angelou”
― Sari Solden, Women With Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

“A toddler is a cross between a sociopath, a rabid animal, a cocker spaniel, a demon, and an angel. Depending on the time of day and when your toddler’s last meal was, you will see all of these sides. The”
― Bunmi Laditan, Toddlers Are A**holes: It's Not Your Fault

“Badassery: 1.   (noun) the practice of knowing one’s own accomplishments and gifts, accepting one’s own accomplishments and gifts and celebrating one’s own accomplishments and gifts; 2. (noun) the practice of living life with swagger : SWAGGER (noun or verb) a state of being that involves loving oneself, waking up “like this” and not giving a crap what anyone else thinks about you. Term first coined by William Shakespeare. Wonder”
― Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

“Wonder Woman is not faking it. Wonder Woman means it. Wonder Woman is all swagger and badassery. Compliment”
― Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

“I’m never merely lucky. I try hard to think I am special, to be in love with myself, to be into myself. I strive for badassery. Men do it all the time. Take the compliment and run. They don’t make themselves smaller. They don’t apologize for being powerful. They don’t downplay their accomplishments. Badassery,”
― Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

“Without introverts, the world would be devoid of: the theory of gravity the theory of relativity W. B. Yeats’s “The Second Coming” Chopin’s nocturnes Proust’s In Search of Lost Time Peter Pan Orwell’s Nineteen Eighty-Four and Animal Farm The Cat in the Hat Charlie Brown Schindler’s List, E.T., and Close Encounters of the Third Kind Google Harry Potter *”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Now that you’re an adult, you might still feel a pang of guilt when you decline a dinner invitation in favor of a good book. Or maybe you like to eat alone in restaurants and could do without the pitying looks from fellow diners. Or you’re told that you’re “in your head too much,” a phrase that’s often deployed against the quiet and cerebral. Of course, there’s another word for such people: thinkers. I”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“cannot pretend I am without fear. But my predominant feeling is one of gratitude. I have loved and been loved; I have been given much and I have given something in return; I have read and traveled and thought and written. I have had an intercourse with the world, the special intercourse of writers and readers. Above all, I have been a sentient being, a thinking animal, on this beautiful planet, and that in itself has been an enormous privilege and adventure.”
― Oliver Sacks, Gratitude

“Here’s what’s on offer for meditating mothers: increased energy, calmness, the ability to be more attentive, joyful and available. To be able to take life less seriously, to see the light and the lightness. To tone down the resentment and irritability. And best of all: not needing as much sleep. Not”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“The amount of information having to be processed by a human being in one day in this day and age is similar to what someone one hundred years ago would have processed in a lifetime.”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“For motherhood is of the mind, and the body is usually subjected to the mental processes, unless any gross abnormality exists.’ I”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“The newborn baby and its mother are old and loving acquaintances at birth, who cannot wait to set eyes on each other. Thomas”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“Once I accepted that as the way it is, and even came to appreciate it, knowing it would not go on forever, once I stopped fighting it, expecting something different, I could surrender, go with it, and find peace. No less exhausted but less resentful.”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“There is no bigger responsibility than guiding a life. There is no greater job on earth.’ I”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“am surprised to find myself raising my boys so much alone. I had anticipated we would do this together, us mothers, all bucking in and sharing the load. It wasn’t help I craved but company. They say it takes a village to raise a child and, I wondered, Where’s my village? We are not designed to live in nuclear families — the extended family model is imprinted in our DNA — yet most of us do. We’re so caught up in our own lives there’s no time to help out in anyone else’s. It is suggested to me that my reticence at asking for help or letting others in might be a side effect of having been born premature. Psychologists say, so vital is the wider network for the development of healthy, happy children that if we don’t have one, we must make one. For someone like me, that is a far more daunting proposition.”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“One of the greatest gifts children bring us is the way they guide, if not force, our attention back home to the present … Once jaded, world-weary parents can find themselves lying in their backyards fascinated at the proceedings of an ant colony. If we let them, children can teach us the value of time with no objectives, a skilful kind of laziness, free from the need for productivity.’ And”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“I am trying (really trying) to be present. To live, as much as possible, in-the-moment. ‘I look at the children at breakfast every morning and I think that child will never ever be the age that they are today ever again,’ says Tim Brown. ‘They’ll never be like they are in this moment ever again, there’ll never be a day like today, and that’s the thing that brings me back into the present.’ The”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“Observe closely the next small child you encounter,’ as a prime example of living in the moment. ‘They are naturally balanced, living-in-the-present, stress-free beings. They are so focused on the present moment that they are entirely spontaneous, unpretentious and usually very happy. They are in a constant state of effortless meditation.’ ‘Babies are true Zen creatures,’ says paediatrician Dr Howard Chilton. APPRECIATION”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“Children will notice the raindrops going down a window, they’ll notice the light, they’ll notice a rainbow, they’ll notice little things all the time — Oh, there’s a bird call. They really are wide awake. Their sensors are open and receptive and as adults we’ve tended to shut down so to be in the moment with your child you suddenly learn to live all over again actually. Which makes it just such fun.’ ELIMINATING”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“No matter what we think of ourselves, our baby looks at us like we’re the most glorious being that walked the earth. Who else looks at you like that? Who’s feeding who here?’ SELF-REFLECTION”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“I wanted to raise children infused with love, empathy, happiness, resilience, security, courage, compassion and connection, with a radar for right and wrong and an innate sense of self (and I do) then I had to get with the program. ‘We”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“An infant is pure spiritual gold. Cherishing her innocence is the way to find the path back to our own,’ says Deepak Chopra in his book The Seven Spiritual Laws for Parents. ‘So in a very important way it is the parent who sits at the feet of the baby.’ It is up to us as parents to pass on the principles of spirit to our children. ‘Every child has a spiritual life already. This is because every child is born into the field of infinite creativity and pure awareness that is spirit. But not every child knows that this is true. Spirit must be cultivated; it must be nourished and encouraged. If it is, then a child’s innocent spirit grows up to be strong enough to withstand the harsh realities of an often unspiritual world.’ ‘Raise children as if they’re intelligent and ask them questions, ask them lots of questions,’ Knoles said. ‘You don’t just want to be an announcer: here’s the announcement of the truth. You want to ask the child what the truth is. What’s the truth here?’ I”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen

“Here’s what my children have taught me so far       Gratitude       Appreciation       Positivity and optimism       Mindfulness       The art of staying present       How to things in perspective       How to surrender and let go of the past       Spontaneity       Time management       The importance of staying conscious       The gift of being rendered choiceless       Love: so much love       Gifts for life”
― Jacinta Tynan, Mother Zen