Kain Ramsay > Kain's Quotes

“People who master themselves live an empowered life: they don’t need to rely on external validation and their self-esteem and self-worth aren’t tentatively balanced on the fleeting opinions of other people.”
― Kain Ramsay

“It’s only through deconstructing ourselves that we are able to rebuild ourselves upon a more stable foundation of self-acceptance and go on to lead more empowered, autonomous and significant lives.”
― Kain Ramsay

“No truly confident or secure person ever feels superior to another because their sense of self and worth isn’t dependent upon a comparison. They had developed a self-sufficient validation system.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Knocking people down a few pegs, verbally or in the silent comfort of your own mind, is an easy but artificial and corrupt method for building yourself up. Everyone with an inferiority complex has a shadow of a superiority complex buried inside them somewhere”
― Kain Ramsay

“Both inferiority and superiority complexes are disempowered states of being: both states inadvertently depend upon other people to make the person feel special and worthy in some way”
― Kain Ramsay

“The reason so many people are unfulfilled and miserable in life is that they take the well-trodden road of shallow materialism, one-upmanship and empty goals for self-aggrandisement. They spend their time investing in self-serving ambitions with the intention of either bettering themselves or impressing other people.”
― Kain Ramsay

“You are too great an entity to keep yourself all to yourself: purposefulness in life comes through sharing what you have to offer with others”
― Kain Ramsay

“Many people with low self-esteem clutch onto negative and destructive behaviours because they lack a sense of self, so they define themselves by these negative traits that they’ve fallen into.”
― Kain Ramsay

“You can’t master who and how you are in the world without becoming mindful of your innate lapses in judgement. Without mindfulness, we’re susceptible to becoming passive spectators of life and, potentially, conceding ‘victims’ of circumstance.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Without having a vision for life, people perish. They waste their lives clinging onto the past, and allowing the weight of their regrets, mistakes, failures and missed opportunities to hold them back from drawing up compelling life visions for themselves, filled with goals bigger than themselves.”
― Kain Ramsay

“When our goals in life strive to positively influence and impact the lives of others, our confidence shifts. Whilst we may feel the pressure to ensure we fulfill our goals for the good of other people, our motivation becomes more powerful; we become more willing to take risks, lose face, fail and make sacrifices for the good of the bigger picture.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Thoughts are the mother of insecurities. Insecurity is nothing more than a thought, a belief, an ethereal object which cannot be dyed, slimmed, promoted, demoted, salaried, painted, broken up with or bought. The worse you think about yourself, the worse you’re going to feel in life.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Whilst people may say or do things which hurt you and feed into your negative beliefs, no one can make you think in a particular way about yourself: how you respond mentally and emotionally is down to you.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Your greatest problems in life aren’t the actions you take, the emotions you have or the things that happen to you: they’re the thoughts you fail to manage.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Nobody else can make you feel a certain way, they can’t force-feed you an emotion to feel. They can do things and say things to you, but how you feel in response isn’t their fault and isn’t down to their control: your emotions are entirely under your influence due to the thoughts you do and do not validate.”
― Kain Ramsay

“The key to emotional management is learning the difference between reacting to your emotions and responding to them.”
― Kain Ramsay

“All of our negative self-talk comes from deep-rooted beliefs and assumptions we made about ourselves. Contrary to all the ‘evidence’ you have supporting your beliefs, the majority of your beliefs are not only incorrect but unhelpful.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Most people don’t like to admit they’re wrong or accept that their perception of reality isn’t helpful nor accurate. People become attached to their beliefs because their identities are so tightly wound up in them. The fondness of familiarity sets people up for failure: their goals get put on hold because they’re burdened with limiting assumptions about their capabilities and potential to go with the flow, take risks and make things happen.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Overcoming limiting beliefs depends on a person’s willingness to challenge and replace their beliefs with contrasting ones which feel uncomfortable, unfamiliar and, potentially, threatening to their sense of self.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Because no one teaches us the distinction between subjective, external influence and universal truth, we crystallise negative beliefs we develop in childhood and carry them through to adulthood and live in an endless cycle of stress, depression, anxiety and of beating ourselves up for being the way we are.”
― Kain Ramsay

“You are not the sum of the mistakes you’ve made in life: you’re not a failed employee, parent, spouse, child or student; you’re not the embarrassing or stupid things you’ve said in moments of naivety or anger. The outcomes you get in life don’t define you and shouldn’t be part of your identity. Your value lies in your ups and your downs and the lessons you’ve learned from them all - failures and successes.”
― Kain Ramsay

“If your negative bias is skewed against your favour because you believe you’re inherently wrong and not good enough, nearly everything you do or experience will feed into and support your negative bias and limiting beliefs because one factor is always constant: you.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Beliefs act like a set of rules we’re too frightened to break; rather than risk getting what we want in life, we’d rather sit put in our comfort zones.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Most people don’t think of their life in terms of external influence for the sake of the world around them, and that’s understandable. We’re evolutionarily hardwired to be primarily motivated by self-interest. On top of all that, life should be enjoyable and should include elements of self-care and occasional indulgences. Whilst personal interest and self-investment are valid and necessary pursuits in life, we shouldn’t prioritise these above our pursuit of something bigger than ourselves, something which is capable of impacting our community and positively influences other people.”
― Kain Ramsay

“Whilst it may feel comforting and easier to view your life through a filter of It’s not my fault. They made me do it. It made me this way, this submission to a state of powerlessness is not only debilitating but also smacks of immaturity. Whether or not you’re conscious of your desires, the victim mentality is driven by two core needs: sympathy and vindication.”
― Kain Ramsay

“The pursuit of happiness and fulfilment is a journey many people commit their lives to. Sadly, many people fail in their mission due to seeking it out in the wrong places, such as in their career, their net worth, entertainment, or the size of their social media following.”
― Kain Ramsay