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“What you have to understand Sylvia is that I didn’t marry you for any other reason than that I wanted you in my life. You don’t have to do anything to be a joy to me. You can spend a whole day doing nothing and I shall be just as pleased to see you in Millers Lane waiting for me, or even not bothering to wait for me there, but staying here until I get home.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“Ignorance can be an amazing boost to one’s confidence at times though. You don’t realise how much you don’t know and can learn through experience, sometimes called the hard way, but that’s ok too with gardening. Plants are quite forgiving.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“All certainty about all the things I’d previously felt confident about is being incrementally taken away from me. Mother is clever with words, and they don’t show on the outside, don’t leave scars and marks that other people can see. The signs are there of course, damaged children do tell you if you know how to read the signs. I know I still exhibit some of those sometimes when I watch people too closely, not feeling confident about their presence. This is a poem I wrote about it. Frozen Child I have a look, a certain kind of stare
that watches closely, intently.
A child monitoring her surroundings
for safety and unknown terrors. The watching appears rude, invasive,
but I’m not watching you,
just your body, for sudden moves,
just your face, in case it changes
from light to darkness.
It is that instant I await. Forewarned is forearmed
the child always ready,
prepared for the next attack,
never knowing where it will come from,
how it will manifest, just watching. A kind of stare, not looking at you
looking beyond at what might be there.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“Mother’s Mother, Violet, is called ‘big Grandma’ since she is five feet nine inches tall. Functional but unflattering names for what should be a tender relationship, but it matches the reality. Tenderness is in short supply.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“I remember reading a quote by Jung once, ‘there is no such thing as a difficult child, just a child being mismanaged’.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“It strikes me how hard it is to appreciate people for their positive qualities when we are overwhelmed by their negative ones”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“Very disturbed and traumatised people are utterly selfish because they are not able to cope with more than their own inner nightmare.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“reading Amusing Ourselves to Death in 2006, in a society that worships TV and technology as ours does, is nearly an act of defiance, one of those I-didn’t-realize-it-was-dark-until-someone-flipped-the-switch encounters with an illuminating intellect?”
― Neil Postman, Amusing Ourselves to Death: Public Discourse in the Age of Show Business

“I have learned not to trust the stories we each have in our minds. They may be deeply mistaken. I learn this from Quakers, and also from Thich Nhat Hanh.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“I’ve always known things at a deeper intuitive level of wisdom beyond myself, as if I can dip my toes into a well of wisdom from ancient times, eternal perspectives that never become obsolete. When I read or hear or recognise such wisdom, it affects my body in peculiar ways, as if I am sinking into something utterly original and natural. I’ve learned to accept and embrace these insights”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“We all need to learn from experience. We all need someone to give us that experience in the first place. We need to learn compassion, forgiveness, and humility.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“Family abandonments are not usually taken lightly and frequently come with their own burdens of guilt, shame and regret along with that feeling of worthlessness that often accompanies the causes that led to this.”
― Sylvia Clare, No Visible Injuries

“People cannot change their habits without first changing their way of thinking.”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“Tidying brings visible results. Tidying never lies. The ultimate secret of success is this: If you tidy up in one shot, rather than little by little, you can dramatically change your mind-set. A change so profound that it touches your emotions will irresistibly affect your way of thinking and your lifestyle habits. My clients do not develop the habit of tidying gradually. Every one of them has been clutter-free since they undertook their tidying marathon. This approach is the key to preventing rebound. When”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“Tidying in the end is just a physical act. The work involved can be broadly divided into two kinds: deciding whether or not to dispose of something and deciding where to put it. If you can do these two things, you can achieve perfection. Objects can be counted. All you need to do is look at each item, one at a time, and decide whether or not to keep it and where to put it. That’s all you need to do to complete this job. It is not hard”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“The floor and bed were covered in baskets and bags filled with magazines and papers. When my client came home from work, she moved the things on her bed to the floor and when she woke up, she put them back on the bed to make a path to the door so she could”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“The floor and bed were covered in baskets and bags filled with magazines and papers. When my client came home from work, she moved the things on her bed to the floor and when she woke up, she put them back on the bed to make a path to the door so she could go to work. Her lifestyle could not have been called “feminine” by any stretch of the imagination. “What do you mean by a ‘feminine lifestyle’?” I asked. She thought for a long moment before finally responding. “Well, when I come home from work, the floor would be clear of clutter … and my room, as tidy as a hotel suite with nothing obstructing the line of sight. I’d have a pink bedspread and a white antique-style lamp. Before going to bed,”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“The floor and bed were covered in baskets and bags filled with magazines and papers. When my client came home from work, she moved the things on her bed to the floor and when she woke up, she put them back on the bed to make a path to the door so she could go to work. Her lifestyle could not have been called “feminine” by any stretch of the imagination. “What do you mean by a ‘feminine lifestyle’?” I asked. She thought for a long moment before finally responding. “Well, when I come home from work, the floor would be clear of clutter … and my room, as tidy as a hotel suite with nothing obstructing the line of sight. I’d have a pink bedspread and a white antique-style lamp. Before going to bed, I would have a bath, burn aromatherapy oils, and listen to classical piano or violin while doing yoga and drinking herbal tea. I would fall asleep with a feeling of unhurried spaciousness.” Her”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“Because we should be choosing what we want to keep, not what we want to get rid of.”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. By”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“I recommend that you always think in terms of category, not place. Before choosing what to keep, collect everything that falls within the same category at one time.”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“The best sequence is this: clothes first, then books, papers, komono (miscellany), and lastly, mementos. This order has also proven to be the most efficient in terms of the level of difficulty for the subsequent task of storing. Finally, sticking to this sequence sharpens our intuitive sense of what items spark”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“Human judgment can be divided into two broad types: intuitive and rational. When it comes to selecting what to discard, it is actually our rational judgment that causes trouble.”
― Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

“I see myself in perfect health, in absolute prosperity, appreciating this physical life experience, which I wanted so very much as I decided to be this physical Being. It’s glorious to be here, making decisions with my physical brain but accessing the power of the Universe through the power of the Law of Attraction. And it’s from this marvelous state of being that I now attract more of the same. It’s good. It’s fun. I like it very much. And now, my work for this day is done. I will leave my Creative Workshop and I’ll set out, for the remainder of this day, looking for more things that I like. My work is done.”
― Esther Hicks, Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

“Here is a broader example of your Creative Workshop: I like being here, for I recognize the value and power of this time. I feel very good as I am here. And as I see myself, I see myself as a sort of total package, one that I know is of my own creating, and certainly one of my choosing. I’m full of Energy, tireless, really, moving through life experience with no resistance. I see myself gliding about in this picture of self, moving in and out of my car, in and out of buildings, in and out of rooms, in and out of conversations, and in and out of life experiences. I am flowing effortlessly, comfortably, and happily. I see myself attracting only those who are in harmony with my current intent. And I’m becoming more aware of what I desire. When I get into my vehicle and I’m moving to a place, I see myself arriving at that place healthy, refreshed, and on time, and prepared for whatever it is that I’m about to do there. I see myself dressed to perfection in just the manner I choose. And it’s nice to know that it does not matter what others are doing, or what others are thinking about what I’m doing. What is important is that I’m pleased with me. And as I see myself in this picture of self, I certainly am. I recognize that I’m unlimited in all facets of my life. I have an unlimited bank account. I am”
― Esther Hicks, Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

“It feels like anger, frustration, resentment, blame, guilt, or fear. . . . Those thoughts are not good for you, and you can tell they are not good for you because they feel bad when”
― Esther Hicks, Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

“Once you have made a decision that nothing is more important than that you feel good, and you have decided that you are going to consciously look for some things to appreciate today, the object of your attention has now become the feeling of appreciation.”
― Esther Hicks, Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

“Karma in its effect on character is the most tremendous power that man has to deal with. Man is, as it were, a centre, and is attracting all the powers of the universe towards himself, and in this centre is fusing them all and again sending them off in a big current. Such a centre is the real man — the almighty, the omniscient — and he draws the”
― Vivekananda, Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda

“Buddha's father had been in the world.”
― Vivekananda, Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda

“With regard to Karma-Yoga, the Gita says that it is doing work with cleverness and as a science; by knowing how to work, one can obtain the greatest results. You must remember that all work is simply to bring out the power of the mind which is already there, to wake up the soul. The power is inside every man, so is knowing; the different works are like blows to bring them out, to cause these giants to wake up. Man”
― Vivekananda, Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda