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Barbara Sher
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November 21, 2018 - January 8, 2019
Isolation is the dream killer. It will stop you every time.
She's Not wrong
When it comes to actually making dreams come true, nothing compares with having a weekly meeting and a team on your side.
I dont reallyh disagree with this but doknt necessarily know how to make this happen
hire a coach
I think those are really silly
Knowing they’re waiting to hear from you will lower your anxiety and make you get into action.
Actuallygwould heighten my anxiety, lol. It might be necessary to call them!
That’s a very big answer. To show a sample of your work to people, you need a chapter of the book you haven’t written. To create even one chapter and show it to someone requires writing up a table of contents and a description of what you’ll be saying in your book. Combined with your chapter, that will be a very good thing to show people so you can find out if they like it. I do it all the time, in fact. What I just described is also called a book proposal.
You might be surprised at what comes of this little test run: You could actually turn one of your dreams into reality, just like that.
“Yes, it’s still a little scary, but you forgot to tell me one thing.” “What’s that?” I asked. “That it’s exciting to finally get moving! You know something is going to happen.”
So the moral is: Start small . . . but start now. Move
The dread of being locked away from their main source of energy and joy—learning, discovering, sleuthing, creating—makes Scanners pull back from every job or project, no matter how hard they try to stay.
Identifying the Bad Feeling lets us draw a few conclusions about why you, and all Scanners, don’t “finish” what you start.
This chapter doesnt resonate as much as others. It is true I do quit some things before I get very far, but I do finish most projects so long as I have the necessary knowledge, tools and skills. Most times when I stop moving forward on some path, its because I lack one of those components. My book is a good example. I dont know how tok navijgate the e pub part, so I feel in a dilemma about how to finish.
We’ve all had the painful experience of seeing one of our ideas or inventions show up in the marketplace under someone else’s name because we didn’t follow through on it.
That is exactly what I felt about the Life-changing magic book. I freakin said Spark Joy in my bookk!
Why does every bright idea have to be an opportunity to become accomplished, rich, and famous? Even if you were the kind of person who finishes everything you start, you couldn’t harness all your ideas anyway.
Well no but it would be nice if ANY of my good ideas were remunerated
Even with a load of helpers, no Scanner can develop every idea or become a specialist in every field that interests her.
Ought to do one, though...
When I see a puzzle, my mouth waters. I’m like a dog with a bone. I can’t wait to gnaw on it until I get the answer!
Lol relate
We just have many and varied loves, our wow button is pushed far more often than others, and thank God for it.
What a great description
someone invariably says: But I bought all that equipment!
Lol.right??
It’s called the SCANNER’S FINISH. The Scanner’s Finish This is a very different way to wrap things up than we’re usually taught. Here’s how it works: When you know chances are good that you will not be working on a project again, you simply gather together all the parts, wrap them up in a parcel of brown paper, and tie it with a string. Then attach a large label explaining what the project is, what the goal was, at what stage the project has been put away, and, should it ever be continued, what the next steps should be. Then you can walk away without regret. You’ve signed off on it, without
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This is truly not a bad idea and I wish I had done this with certain projects I literally threw away.
You can start a collection and call it your LIFE’S WORK BOOKSHELF.
Also a cute idea
you need a bookshelf or a closet with empty shelves in it and a small sign attached in plain sight that says “My Life’s Work Bookshelf” or “My Autobiography” or “Souvenirs of an Adventurous Mind.”
Love souvenirs of adventurous mijnd
or a project at work, that’s real life. Your natural tendency will be to tap into self-discipline and force yourself to tough it out. But that can create too much unhappiness in a Scanner, and unhappiness isn’t good for you.
I do disagree with this though. When it comes to meeting an obigation I am paif for or committed to, I will and must complete it, whether or not the joy peters out. So, for example, I will produce a knitted baby blanket for Amanda, no matter how tiring it could be (because of cancer treatments) or how much I may have to pour on come Feb if its not finished yet. I may be a Scanner but I draw the line on flaking out when I have committed to doing something that someone is depending on.
pretend it’s a precious thing you must finish before the aliens arrive from outer space and snatch it away for their evil purposes.
Lol
What you do have is an unusually fast, curious mind that loves to solve problems and explore new ideas and too many aptitudes to fit into one job title.
One type of Scanner (the Serial Master; see Chapter 16) loves the challenge of learning to speak a foreign language like a native or perfecting the techniques of glazing a clay pot or becoming a black belt in karate.
This resonates with me. It is also why I love reading William Alexander. Consider the three books i read by him - one on creating a magnificent homes garden , one on learning French, one on a year-long quest to bake a perfect loaf of bread.
Other types have many interests, but they always circle back to pick up the same ones over and over.
You know what you love, and you usually return to each activity over and over again.
but are more concerned about having nothing to show for their lives.
they can keep many projects in play at the same time. Although they’re often the stars of any place they work, they have just as much trouble doing what they love as any other Scanner and are more likely to put their dreams off for some day in the future.
If ever there was a dream killer, Either/Or thinking is it.
If you’re planning to lead your other life in a distant place, you can arrange to do freelance consulting work and line up a new job before you leave the country. It’s very nice to know you don’t have to find a job when you get back.
I always find this frustrating though because - HOW do you do that? How do you get a "consulting job" in the first place and how do yoku get okne set to commence when you return frolm frivolity?
You can find opportunities on the job-listing sites on the Internet. Depending on your skills set, there are contract labor and temporary firms that place workers on a project-by-project basis.
Scanners who love to keep their options open tell me they prefer temp jobs to permanent ones. Law firms, large banks, and big corporations always need proofreaders to check changes in contracts.
All you have to do is go in and take a few tests to show you can do detailed work, and they’ll give you work right away (the night shift pays big money).
Well, I can do that...
The best friend of almost every type of Scanner is what I call the Good Enough Job. It isn’t your dream job; it’s the one that funds your dreams. If a job isn’t unpleasant, doesn’t eat up more than 40 hours a week, pays well, and provides security—it can give you the freedom to do all the things you love on your own time. People complain about unfulfilling jobs until they understand what the Good Enough Job actually is, and then they feel very different about them.
I dont have a problem with this in principle, but my not-at-work time is still not completely free to do my things. Still kids, though at the tail end of that; still a husbnd, house,dinner, groceriess...Hmmm
Do you have a major clutter problem; do you often mislay important parts of what you’re doing? Would you love to finish a project before you move to another, but you’ve almost never done that?
I'm Definitely not like this
You return to the same group of interests over and over, and each time you find them fresh and appealing. You’re happy to try new things, too, but you really prefer to revisit what you already love, and a steady diet of novelty would leave you dissatisfied.
THIS part is true for me though
Sybil types can’t always find their materials,
Not this though
most Sybil Scanners have very little tolerance for chaos and have bursts of organizing energy they find very satisfying.
True Agaijn
“Scanners like you who keep returning to the same interests again and again are better designed to accomplish amazing things than anyone, even specialists,”
“And a school bell to tell you when to change classes,” I grinned. “You know, that’s not such a bad idea,” she replied. If someone like Lynn thinks she has to choose between her beloved projects, she’s lost the battle before she’s begun. But she obviously can’t do them all at once. When you want to do everything right now, you really do need a schedule that lets you do one thing after another.
THIS is a good idea thst does work for me. I noticedd this with having the work computer here at home: it's harder for me to decide when to do my work because i can sort of do it whenever
“Don’t tell me to stick with one thing for 6 months and then another. I tried that. It’s suffocating.” “How about sticking with one thing for an hour and then another?” I asked. “Like high school!” she exclaimed. “And college.
“Permission?” I asked. “Yes. Part of the reason I wasn’t doing what I loved was that it always made me feel a little guilty, like I had more important things to do. I never would have admitted that to myself until I used this Planner last week. Now, when it’s time to do something I really enjoy that’s just for me, I tell myself, ‘Hey, it’s on the schedule. I have to do it.’
Relate!
her 15-MONTH GOAL CALENDAR. (The calendar was an ingenious grid that showed at a glance what percentage of each goal had been accomplished by how close it was to the final date and the New Year’s Eve party.)
That is actually brilliant
When I look at the wall and see I’ve fallen behind in one of those areas, it becomes interesting! Even if it wasn’t interesting before!”
Unlike most other Sybils, Celeste wasn’t disorganized and didn’t have a clutter problem.
Me!
Then, last month in a home furnishings catalog, I saw a little rolling stand with drawers and a couple of fun gadgets like a desk space that opened, a slot for large pages, a shelf for books. It was called a bill paying center, as I recall, but to me it was a dead ringer for an Avocation Station.
I gotta say, this is not bad
She did the same with her recording equipment and the files for her book-in-progress.
There were snapshots of two stuffed toys she’d made for her grandchild; a cartoon of a little book that said “Memoirs, 37 pages”; a dried sprig from a dill plant; and at the top, written in bold black letters, these words: Doing Everything You Love Every Day, or How to Write a Book, Build an Herb Garden, Create a Board Game, Make Stuffed Toys, Study History, and Run a Home Business at the Same Time. There was a lovely letter about how well she was doing, and it ended: “P.S. Please return this sheet to me in the enclosed stamped self-addressed envelope so I can tape it into my Daybook.”
Thats really fun! I actually love the idea of representing to myself the progress I make, like if I put photos of my knitted prjects in my daybook, say
Like Lynn, all Cyclical Scanners can grow into experts and authorities, because their expertise can accumulate through the years just like every other aspect of their projects.
The Good Enough Job: Sybils are often happiest with the Good Enough Job. It’s
What was Donna thinking about? “Everything, anything. I love to learn anything, from books or magazines or the back of breakfast cereal boxes and that means thinking. When I cook or clean the house or go walking, I think almost the entire time.
Lol me too!
