The grin is not mine to share anymore, and I know this, I have accepted the way things are and the way things are going to be, even if she hasn’t and won’t.
Being alive and feeling alive are two different things. Some are both (julie, Nora, Perry's dad, early Perry), some are only one ( older perry, M, arguably Grigio) and some are neither,(grigio, the boneys). R is making the transition from nothing to everything.