If You’re Anxious, You Shouldn’t Be Dating Someone Avoidant Because: You: want closeness and intimacy. They: want to maintain some distance, emotional and/or physical. You: are very sensitive to any signs of rejection (vigilant attachment system). They: send mixed signals that often come across as rejecting. You: find it hard to tell them directly what you need and what’s bothering you (effective communication), and use protest behavior instead. They: are bad at reading your verbal and nonverbal cues and don’t think it’s their responsibility to do so. You: need to be reassured and feel loved.
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