Thoughts and Feelings That Compel You to Seek Closeness with Your Partner Thinking about your mate, difficulty concentrating on other things. Remembering only their good qualities. Putting them on a pedestal: underestimating your talents and abilities and overestimating theirs. An anxious feeling that goes away only when you are in contact with them. Believing this is your only chance for love, as in: “I’m only compatible with very few people—what are the chances I’ll find another person like them?” “It takes years to meet someone new; I’ll end up alone.” Believing that even though you’re
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