Don’t act on your impulse. When you’re excited about someone but then suddenly have a gut feeling that they are not right for you, stop and think. Is this actually a deactivating strategy? Are all those small imperfections you’re starting to notice really your attachment system’s way of making you step back? Remind yourself that this picture is skewed and that you need intimacy despite your discomfort with it. If you thought they were great to begin with, you have a lot to lose by pushing them away.
