Although he can work to change this situation in the future, he must now deal with the way things are currently. This means recognizing his anger, that he has reasons to be angry, and that he has no choice but to accept his anger, for he cannot make it disappear, at least not right away. Though he may regret the presence of unacceptable feelings, he is powerless to change them (a dictum similar to those used in Alcoholics Anonymous). Accepting these uncomfortable feelings means accepting himself as an imperfect human being and relinquishing the illusion that he can control uncontrollable
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