Self-reevaluation, then, requires not only that you abandon all hope of finding an effortless route to change, but that you confront some difficult questions: What are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of your self? Giving up drinking may mean you will spend less time with your buddies. Becoming assertive will be a shock to friends who are accustomed to your submissiveness. Less emotional distress may mean that those friends who helped you when you were down will be less focused on you.
