Therefore, if you have strong inner feelings about an external person, whether they are positive or negative, it is best to begin by doing inner work to discover what is going on subjectively within yourself. Then, if you have anything that needs to be said to the other individual, it is better to say it directly—using common sense and courtesy as your guide.
? What of the meditation school (for example, Thích Nats Hahn zen) that explicitly have one exploring valence with specific people, places, and time?
