At home, Yush and I had both absorbed a casual sexism that was reinforced by the world outside. But, of course, as a woman, this affected me differently than Yush. The double standards that I eventually felt as constraints, Yush experienced as power. As the war between you and Papa intensified, Yush saw himself in Papa’s struggles, and I saw myself in yours. But I reduced you to helpless victim and demonized Papa as a monster because I could not face the pain of realizing that some part of you chose to stay with a man who mistreated you. I think Yush eventually saw Papa as the victim and you
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