one of the reasons we are able to communicate and cooperate in the ways that we do is because we use our own minds to make judgements about what is going on in those of other people. However, here’s the catch – this assumption of similarity can cause confusion. How often have we found ourselves thinking: ‘If I was in that person’s shoes, I wouldn’t have done/said/felt that. How can he/she do/feel that? I would never have done that’? We use our own inner experience of feelings and our sense of self-identity to judge the other person – when their values and ways of thinking and feeling may be
...more
