Note as well that what the human brain will do is to put a label on each of these complex feelings. The problem is that the label might not be very accurate but only the nearest approximation of what we feel. For example, people can experience the pain of having a sense of separation from others, which might be linked to emotional memories of others not being there for them. The closest label that matches this feeling and this sense of self is: ‘I’m alone and thus unwanted.’ But the label is wrong. The reality is that perhaps the parent did love/want the child in their own limited way but was
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