The loving feeling in the family must be used to cultivate that true feeling of loving-kindness in one’s heart, which is not dependent on conditions, such as “my husband, my wife, my daughter, my son, my uncle, my aunt, my mother, my father.” That is all “my-making and mine-making.” Unless we can transcend that and grow into unconditional love, the family love has not been used for its full purpose. It has been used for ego support and survival instead. Since survival is a lost cause, it doesn’t need our effort.
