The once-popular message “Love means never having to say, ‘I’m sorry’” is quite wrong. Love means daring to say, “I’m sorry.” In fact, given who we are, love means saying “I’m sorry” early and often. Mpho’s husband, Joe, is a sturdy tower of a man. Mpho tells him he is never manlier than when he crouches down to apologize to one of his children for an unjust reprimand or an excess of temper. Apology and forgiveness break the hold of wrongness. Self-forgiveness may be the golden key that frees us from slipping into the habit of choosing wrong.
