During our first few years, we have the repeated experiences of going from a comfortable, regulated state to a state of dysregulation. We become frightened, cold, wet, and hungry, and show our displeasure with facial expressions, bodily postures, vocalization, and crying. In the presence of good-enough parenting, our signals are attended to, the source of our displeasure diagnosed, and we are helped back into a regulated state. Across thousands of these temporal-emotional experiences, we go from regulation to dysregulation to reregulation. These experiences shape secure attachment and the
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