Shenpa is caused by a conflict between the lizard brain (which wants to strike out or to flee) and the rest of our brain, which desires achievement, connection, and grace. Oscillating between the two merely makes things worse. It seems that you have two choices for ending the cycle: you can flee or you can stay. There’s nothing inherently wrong with fleeing. If you can’t handle a certain kind of interaction or event, don’t do it. Avoid it. Some people weren’t born to be baseball umpires. The other alternative is to stay. If you believe that it’s important enough, then your challenge is to
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