Despite the inefficiency of giving advice, people rush to dish out solutions because waiting for someone to come up with their own ideas requires effort. First you have to hold back your desire to solve the problem yourself, which takes inhibition, an energy-hungry process. It can feel like staring at someone trying to solve a crossword puzzle clue you know the answer to—a little painful! You also have to work hard to dampen your arousal from the uncertainty of what solution the other person will come to, the lack of autonomy you might now experience because someone else is making the choices,
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