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Children's resentment of the restrictions is anticipated and understood; they are not punished additionally for resenting the prohibitions.
You don't have to be afraid of your impulses. I won't let you go too far. It is safe.
In the setting of limits—as in all education—the product depends on the process.
Why is granting in fantasy less hurtful than flat denial? Because the parent's detailed response shows that she understands how her daughter feels.
Efficiency is the enemy of infancy. It is too costly in terms of the child's emotional economy.
Children (and adults) should not be deprived of their right to grieve and to mourn.
Children are dependent on their parents, and dependency breeds hostility.
