This person’s greatest value was his own happiness and his own immediate comfort. And I can’t think of a worse value in life, especially a life that includes marriage. Why? Is this a killjoy attitude? Hardly. I am not advocating misery. I hate pain. But I do know this: People who always want to be happy and pursue it above all else are some of the most miserable people in the world.
And in this example, the client has so narrowly defined "happiness" so as to lose the depth, beauty, and necessity of true happiness. When "happiness" becomes the sum of "what makes me feel good," being happy is reduced to infantile pleasure-seeking.
