They learned how to be separate people who were free to love each another. The missing ingredient all along had been a deep sense of intimacy, something the Bible refers to as “knowing” someone. But without clear boundaries, they could not know each other, and without knowing each other, they could not truly love each other.
the key problem reasserts itself: in the authors’ minds, you become two entirely separate people and live separate lives in the name of “boundaries,” but by being these two separate stoic sterile entities, you actually achieve intimacy, which by definition is an entwined person—NOT ENMESHED—but entwined, “one flesh.”
