Because you are not two clones, your differences guarantee conflict in marriage. Two people who feel strongly about how life should be lived will try to resolve the differences. However, some people fear conflict more than others. They may have grown up in homes in which conflict was never experienced as a good thing. As a friend of mine said, “When we saw my parents argue, they would tell us, ‘That wasn’t an argument; it was a discussion.’ Angriest discussion I ever saw!” These people will often then hate conflict, as it means that the love has gone away. They can’t feel connected while
...more
