Stating your boundary, however, may not be enough. Ever since Adam and Eve, humanity has known the rules and still crosses the line (Genesis 3:6). Whatever your spouse is doing that is hurting you, the benefits he receives may far outweigh your appeals and requests. At this point, you need to set consequences. A consequence is an effect, or result, of another act. You need to establish some consequence for your spouse’s transgression so that he will experience some discomfort for his irresponsibility. A consequence has to have several very important characteristics: Designed to help with
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This is a distinction without a difference. You create consequences for bad behavior to effect a positive change. This is a form of control. in this scenario, you are attempting to fix the other person who truly does need help being fixed. Why do the authors deny that?
