The relational part of marriage involves the emotional tie two people have to each other, such as how deeply connected they are and how they feel about each other, both positively and negatively. The functional part of marriage has to do with the “doing” aspects of the relationship, such as paying bills, managing time, cooking meals, keeping house, and rearing children. In the relational aspect of marriage, sowing and reaping has to do with how spouses affect and impact each other’s heart.
go back to page 20 and read about how spouses can’t be responsible for each other’s feelings when they are acting unkindly to each other and hurting each other, then read this part again and watch your own head explode from the sheer cognitive dissonance of it all. you’re separate people doing separate things separately, but marriage is about being one and sharing lives with each other.
