No matter how much you would like to believe the opposite, your spouse will not change her decisions, opinions, or feelings until she is ready to. You may need to realize that you live with someone whom you can’t “make” do the right thing. This helplessness is often a very painful emotion. Angry control moves may give us the illusion that we have power over our spouse that we don’t have. Accepting helplessness hurts, but it’s where reality lies.
But they encourage you to create consequences for hurtful behavior! Which one is it, guys?
