the boundary-less mate may be less afraid to let his spouse down than the boss or others. It is often because he feels safer with her and knows she won’t leave him. But this is a fatal error in perceiving safety. We should be able to trust a safe spouse and relax in her love. However, safety was never meant as a rationalization for neglecting the love obligation. Living in unconditional grace is never an excuse to be irresponsible or hurtful.
