This drive for companionship must be kept at the forefront of our discussion of freedom. If one of you is controlling, if you restrict your partner’s freedom, companionship is destroyed. But beyond that, freedom nourishes separateness, which is in and of itself an undesirable state. Therefore, freedom from each other ironically creates the very longing that will bring you together over and over again. You must build freedom into your marriage so that you have enough separateness to desire to come together to solve the problem that separateness creates!
