If you are a controller, remember the price you will pay in the end. Your spouse will fight your control to be a free person and an adult. She was made to be an individual, free from control so that she could freely choose to bring that individuality to you to form a “we.” If you take away this freedom, there is no longer a “two” to become “one.” You have done away with the plan. The “oneness” will only be an extension of yourself. Also, if you take away this freedom, she will “leave” that parental function you are providing and “cleave” to someone else. Children, not adults, were designed to
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