It is unloving to set limits with a spouse to harm him. This is revenge, which is in God’s hands, not ours (Romans 12:19). But it can be just as unloving to avoid setting a limit with your spouse because you don’t want him to be uncomfortable. Sometimes discomfort is an opportunity for growth. You may need to confront your spouse, give him a warning, or set a consequence. Do not neglect setting limits in your marriage because of a fear of causing pain. Pain can be the best friend your relationship has ever had.
