This problem usually has to do with the “limitless” spouse’s inability to see how his actions have consequences. Someone else is always there picking up the pieces, starting perhaps with a parent, then friends, then co-workers, or a spouse. The lack of anxiety about marriage problems comes from a lack of anxiety about anything. This spouse has lived with human safety nets and is secure and confident that either (1) nothing bad will come if he doesn’t get to his responsibilities; or (2) if something bad happens, no one will mind; or (3) if anyone is bugged about it, someone else will bail him
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