The Three of Us

by Ore Agbaje-Williams

She is probably the only person in my life who has never wanted something from me, only for me.

It’s when three people are in a relationship together. In your case, the third person is his job.

The truth is that I don’t want children. Or I have never actively considered the reality of having them.

It’s difficult to have a baby with someone who is never around.

I’d never met someone my age who already knew who she was and didn’t shape herself around other people’s opinions.

It doesn’t have to be all, Oh look, the human personification of A4 ruled paper, let me tether myself to him for life.

My sister once said she thought my friendship with Temi was unhealthy.

If you have any problems, keep them between yourself—she poked me in the chest—and your husband. Don’t just open your mouth and scatter your marital business to anyone. But Temi isn’t just anyone.

An intimacy that she should not be a part of, but one that, if anything, makes us closer.

just maybe, a shouting match will begin.

She's so toxic and codependent, I kind of hate it

The second is the presence of her friend. A person whose existence in her life I had previously tolerated at best, but nonetheless whose proximity I’d assumed would decrease over time as she came to understand the unspoken boundaries of a marriage she was not in,

I expected to live with one woman when I got married. Apparently I live with two.