Wanting, in many ways, is humiliating. For one, it suggests you think you’re deserving, that you’re worthy. It connotes arrogance, or pride. There is no reliable model for women to understand what it looks like to know what you want and to go after it without slamming into the assignation of “selfishness.” We are conditioned to believe that selfishness is bad, immoral, wrong; that we must step back, serve through compliance.
