On Our Best Behavior: The Price Women Pay to Be Good

by Elise Loehnen

But I think it’s deeper, that if you feel like you’re good enough, you’ll be safe from judgment, loved.”

oh shit

We all struggle to be known, to express the truest, most tender parts of ourselves, to feel safe enough to bring our gifts to bear. We wonder: Who am I? What do I want and need? How do I find my purpose and serve? Our greatest imperatives are to belong, to love and be loved in return.

We have been trained for goodness. Men, meanwhile, have been trained for power.