trying to cross over the neuro-barrier is very difficult and likely to lead to dissatisfaction on both sides. This is so frequently painted as a problem that lies squarely at the feet of the autistic person, that it has been absorbed as a kind of internalised ableism. It’s too easy to think, in a defeatist, miserable way, that we’re the ones who keep messing up and that we’re the ones, therefore, who need to change (somehow; I’m not convinced that change of this type is possible, and if it is then it certainly isn’t sustainable).
