It’s difficult to proclaim that you are worthy of love, zero chiseling required. It’s terrifying to be yourself in relationships—but it’s more terrifying to think about a future that involves wedging your personality behind the door in a trench coat, Babadook-style, only coming out under the cover of darkness for fear of scaring someone off. Relationships take compromise, but any relationship that requires chiseling isn’t worth the cost of admission.

