slotting ourselves into little tubes—astrological signs, personality quiz results, social and professional labels, even fandoms—is a grave oversimplification. Lingering within our tidy tubes allows us to ignore those less tidy aspects of our personalities. We reject the idea of containing multitudes because containing multitudes is exhausting—especially for perfectionists like me, who feel pressure to perform each multitude perfectly. It’s uncomfortable to sit with yourself as a nuanced thing: a fuzzy cluster of good and bad and confusing traits all stitched together in one lopsided being.
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